A year ago from today,
I was ready to completely let go of everything and everyone that wasn’t meant to be in my life any longer.
I remember telling the universe: “I am ready to be with the one who is meant for me“.
After releasing two men in my life within a process of 6 weeks – and surrendering to the universe, the one man who truly loved me, came back into my life – on the 23rd of October 2016.
I am writing this because I know so many who are going through the process of letting go of someone they truly love – perhaps my experience can help you find clarity, too…
(this is a very honest post to my friends)
We all read the quote: “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”
This is what I had to go through last September and October, with two different people.
It was a huge process of clearing, mentally, physically and spiritually and it was hurtful – but looking back, in my heart I always knew who was deeply meant for me, who I truly loved and that he loved me, too.
But was he ready? Was I ready?
Sometimes you need to end things that aren’t good for you so I completely blocked the one guy I knew who wasn’t right for me – I had held on to him for over 2 years but I felt free and relieved after I did that.
I deleted any pictures or posts I ever made about my love for him and blocked him. More out of my own protection of not looking back into the past.
The other man in my life (my now life-partner):
I gave him time to realize what he wanted.
Gave him space to figure things out on his own, without me being in his presence – I didn’t contact him at all.
We weren’t friends on facebook at that point.
But my heart always said:
He will come back to you. Let him come to you.
I channeled for myself, within my heart, after my mind was clearer, because when you honestly listen to yourself, you know the answers – you can go to as many coaches as you want to – they will only know a part of the story and maybe give you some good advice but your inner source, your intuition, knows more than they will ever know.
I detached from the situations I was in and spent times by myself, discovering what I wanted in life. Going out with friends, talking to them on facebook.
Talibah, Jen, Olga and Lisa were my go-to people, online and offline, no matter what. They were always there for me and I am forever grateful for that, you have helped me in ways no one else could have.
The only thing I did that connected me to my man was put up a cover picture of his lake. On the 23rd of October, he responded.
That was the day he came back into my life.
I would have never imagined that I could be so happy.
My life is just beginning.
The most important message for you from me is:
-Listen to your heart.
–Give the other person the time and space to figure out what s/he wants. If s/he wants you in her/his life, s/he will make room for you to be there.
–Allow the universe to help you.
-Believe in love.
–Love is not always easy BUT SO WORTH IT. It takes love, patience and forgiveness (to yourself and the other).
–The happy ever after story: you meet, you love, you never fight and there will never be problems: is a rarity. If you’ve found that, wonderful – if not: don’t give up (on love), fight for what you dream for and who you love, but also know when to let things go their own way…
I knew Tim about 2 years before we truly decided to not only be together but also to be partners in life and profession.
Now we have a journey in front of us that I never dared to dream about before and I am happier than I’ve ever been.
I have had a big journey already, coming overseas to the city of my dreams – but now our journey is even bigger, traveling, sending messages into the world, through our music and beyond.
All in all I can say, no matter how painful the process was: I don’t regret one day of the process and any other day before and after that.
La Ara / Helen Davies