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The process of trusting, letting go and making room for that what is to come.

A year ago from today,
I was ready to completely let go of everything and everyone that wasn’t meant to be in my life any longer.

I remember telling the universe: “I am ready to be with the one who is meant for me“.

After releasing two men in my life within a process of 6 weeks – and surrendering to the universe, the one man who truly loved me, came back into my life – on the 23rd of October 2016.

I am writing this because I know so many who are going through the process of letting go of someone they truly love – perhaps my experience can help you find clarity, too…

(this is a very honest post to my friends)

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We all read the quote: “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”

This is what I had to go through last September and October, with two different people.

It was a huge process of clearing, mentally, physically and spiritually and it was hurtful – but looking back, in my heart I always knew who was deeply meant for me, who I truly loved and that he loved me, too.

But was he ready? Was I ready?

Sometimes you need to end things that aren’t good for you so I completely blocked the one guy I knew who wasn’t right for me –  I had held on to him for over 2 years but I felt free and relieved after I did that.
I deleted any pictures or posts I ever made about my love for him and blocked him. More out of my own protection of not looking back into the past.

The other man in my life (my now life-partner):
I gave him time to realize what he wanted.
Gave him space to figure things out on his own, without me being in his presence –  I didn’t contact him at all.
We weren’t friends on facebook at that point.
But my heart always said:
He will come back to you. Let him come to you.

I channeled for myself, within my heart, after my mind was clearer, because when you honestly listen to yourself, you know the answers – you can go to as many coaches as you want to – they will only know a part of the story and maybe give you some good advice but your inner source, your intuition, knows more than they will ever know.

I detached from the situations I was in and spent times by myself, discovering what I wanted in life. Going out with friends, talking to them on facebook.
Talibah, Jen, Olga and Lisa were my go-to people, online and offline, no matter what. They were always there for me and I am forever grateful for that, you have helped me in ways no one else could have.

The only thing I did that connected me to my man was put up a cover picture of his lake. On the 23rd of October, he responded.
That was the day he came back into my life.

I would have never imagined that I could be so happy.
My life is just beginning.

The most important message for you from me is:

-Listen to your heart.
Give the other person the time and space to figure out what s/he wants. If s/he wants you in her/his life, s/he will make room for you to be there.
Allow the universe to help you.
-Believe in love.
Love is not always easy BUT SO WORTH IT. It takes love, patience and forgiveness (to yourself and the other).
The happy ever after story: you meet, you love, you never fight and there will never be problems: is a rarity. If you’ve found that, wonderful – if not: don’t give up (on love), fight for what you dream for and who you love, but also know when to let things go their own way…

I knew Tim about 2 years before we truly decided to not only be together but also to be partners in life and profession.

Now we have a journey in front of us that I never dared to dream about before and I am happier than I’ve ever been.

I have had a big journey already, coming overseas to the city of my dreams – but now our journey is even bigger, traveling, sending messages into the world, through our music and beyond.

All in all I can say, no matter how painful the process was: I don’t regret one day of the process and any other day before and after that.

 

La Ara / Helen Davies

 

Love is the Answer

What people often don’t understand is that a relationship is not the end – it’s a start, a beginning of something entirely NEW – especially at this age and time.

I am not talking about affaires or little sexual adventures I am talking about a commitment of two souls, the two higher selves,  the calling, the feeling of love that is filled with abundance.

When you are with the wo/man you love, you can move mountains. Miracles happen. And success in on its way. Four eyes see more than two – especially the inner eyes.

No one has to be alone and no one is meant to be alone.

It’s two + 1 – the two souls that unite and the Spirit/the magic within that makes things come together, that makes things happen.

Patterns and fearful structures of when and where – how old you must be to be married or in a relationship – that’s what keeps us apart from the true joy we can feel when we are connected to the soul that is meant to be in our lives.

Who cares where we are financially or securely…
We think: when I am financially/emotionally secure, then I am ready.

But are we? Are we ever really ready? Won’t there be something we could always do better, prepare for before we do the big steps in our lives?

It takes bravery, it takes:
knowing who you are and what your calling is.

What if your life begins the moment you say YES to the other person?
What if the world is waiting for the two pillars to burst into oneness to make success happen?

You can always fight alone – but is this going to help you?
What if you need someone to stand with you, as a mirror, a reflection, your other you – the person that gets you into your heart and out of your head?!?

It’s good to have someone we can talk to – talk about our fears, worries and someone who cheers us up.
Someone we can lean on, in times of pain or stress and someone to share your deepest joys and success with…
Someone who helps us SNAP out of our “drama” in times.

The person who may not be exactly you, but who feels you, who knows you (not intellecutally but your soul).

We are here to make a change – but not alone.

If we get too busy and don’t listen within, we can go on like this for years. But then we look back and we haven’t built a foundation of trust, of love, commitment with someone and we may end up alone in a time when we are too used to being alone as to be able to share our abundance.

Love is always the answer… no matter what.
Listen to your heart and follow your intuition when you are guided to someone who touches your soul.

If love is your foundation, you will grow stronger every day – and the adventure of life can begin.

La Ara

Love Poem to my King when I didn’t know him yet

close your eyes…
I take you by the hand…
Don’t be surprised,
I’ll make you understand…

So many wonderful things
can happen to us –
In our phantasies we have wings .
And in each other we trust…

Filled with imagination –
A new creation:
Whatever you want to do –
Can be done for you!
Surrounded by love,
You can fill the skies above –
With all you desire –
Gonna set the world on fire…

Whenever you see me –
Come a little closer –
I want to see what you see –
Don’t wanna lose ya…

Through your eyes and my heart –
We can dive into madness –
Make a new start –
Let go of irateness…

Filled with imagination –
A new creation:
Whatever you want to do –
Can be done for you!
Surrounded by love,
You can fill the skies above –
With all you desire –
Put the world on fire…

The world stops turning –
You turn around to me –
Our hearts start burning –
They’re filled with Ecstacy…

And we’re
Filled with imagination –
A new creation:
Whatever you want to do –
Can be done for you!
Surrounded by love,
You can fill the skies above –
With all you desire –
Put the world on fire…

written by

La Ara Dec. 17th 2013

Growing into love – the change within

Sometimes you grow into love.

Sometimes you know very early that you love this person and that you want to be with that person – but you are not ready – you are not aware of this person’s value and the value inside of you – so you doubt, you are afraid and you think you can’t contribute to the other persons’ growth.
And you make mistakes. Mistakes you regret, mistakes through which you learn – mistakes of value, that change your whole being – e.g. you go out with someone else only to find yourself crying in bed because you feel lonelier than ever.
Then you realize that you no longer are in need of being with someone just because you want to “be with someone” – and you stop.
And you learn.
And you change.
You look within.
You go inside and find your own value, your own worthiness.
Sometimes it takes a special person to transform you.
This person touched you and you knew something was there from the beginning but you did not define it as “love”.
So you go and search. First outside of yourself and then within – and you find yourself within your selflove – you learn to be happy with yourself – learn to go away from distraction – see yourself as the angel. the god/goddess that you are and you appreciate even more what that special-someone did to even bring you to this point.
You start to smile without anyone else in the room because you are happy, truly happy and appreciative of every moment you are alive – with yourself and with others.
You know that love is everywhere and you learn to love everything.

And yet you know as you knew from the start that you love this other person in another way and that you only want what’s best for him/her.
You find that you are worthy of being with the other person and you can contribute to the others’ life and experience.
You learn that both of you are equal – alike and yet so different.

Meeting someone else doesn’t always come with that big bang and the perfect knowledge that he/she is the one and with mutual feelings. Sometimes you have to give it time. Grow on each other. Help the other person see who you truly are and not who he/she thought you to be…
Maybe you will stay in the background for a while and be the supporting role in your own play.
You step aside to help the other one to shine – and shine yourself through selfless acts. And later on you go back to shining yourself.

I have met people who don’t think that it’s possible that others can change and become different people – but I’ve gone through this myself – so I know…

People change, mostly to the better. We are not the same today as we were yesterday – with every day there is more consciousness – with every experience you grow and you can achieve more than you would have ever imagined.

And in time, you become the perfect partner for the other without even realizing it. Because you learned through your past.

Once you are there you just have to let go of the past and trust the inner glow the both of you felt from the start.

Stand your ground, believe in miracles and that they come naturally when both of you are ready. Trust that the other person will be guided through dreams and signs. Let the universe take over…

And the magic will occur…