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The process of trusting, letting go and making room for that what is to come.

A year ago from today,
I was ready to completely let go of everything and everyone that wasn’t meant to be in my life any longer.

I remember telling the universe: “I am ready to be with the one who is meant for me“.

After releasing two men in my life within a process of 6 weeks – and surrendering to the universe, the one man who truly loved me, came back into my life – on the 23rd of October 2016.

I am writing this because I know so many who are going through the process of letting go of someone they truly love – perhaps my experience can help you find clarity, too…

(this is a very honest post to my friends)

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We all read the quote: “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”

This is what I had to go through last September and October, with two different people.

It was a huge process of clearing, mentally, physically and spiritually and it was hurtful – but looking back, in my heart I always knew who was deeply meant for me, who I truly loved and that he loved me, too.

But was he ready? Was I ready?

Sometimes you need to end things that aren’t good for you so I completely blocked the one guy I knew who wasn’t right for me –  I had held on to him for over 2 years but I felt free and relieved after I did that.
I deleted any pictures or posts I ever made about my love for him and blocked him. More out of my own protection of not looking back into the past.

The other man in my life (my now life-partner):
I gave him time to realize what he wanted.
Gave him space to figure things out on his own, without me being in his presence –  I didn’t contact him at all.
We weren’t friends on facebook at that point.
But my heart always said:
He will come back to you. Let him come to you.

I channeled for myself, within my heart, after my mind was clearer, because when you honestly listen to yourself, you know the answers – you can go to as many coaches as you want to – they will only know a part of the story and maybe give you some good advice but your inner source, your intuition, knows more than they will ever know.

I detached from the situations I was in and spent times by myself, discovering what I wanted in life. Going out with friends, talking to them on facebook.
Talibah, Jen, Olga and Lisa were my go-to people, online and offline, no matter what. They were always there for me and I am forever grateful for that, you have helped me in ways no one else could have.

The only thing I did that connected me to my man was put up a cover picture of his lake. On the 23rd of October, he responded.
That was the day he came back into my life.

I would have never imagined that I could be so happy.
My life is just beginning.

The most important message for you from me is:

-Listen to your heart.
Give the other person the time and space to figure out what s/he wants. If s/he wants you in her/his life, s/he will make room for you to be there.
Allow the universe to help you.
-Believe in love.
Love is not always easy BUT SO WORTH IT. It takes love, patience and forgiveness (to yourself and the other).
The happy ever after story: you meet, you love, you never fight and there will never be problems: is a rarity. If you’ve found that, wonderful – if not: don’t give up (on love), fight for what you dream for and who you love, but also know when to let things go their own way…

I knew Tim about 2 years before we truly decided to not only be together but also to be partners in life and profession.

Now we have a journey in front of us that I never dared to dream about before and I am happier than I’ve ever been.

I have had a big journey already, coming overseas to the city of my dreams – but now our journey is even bigger, traveling, sending messages into the world, through our music and beyond.

All in all I can say, no matter how painful the process was: I don’t regret one day of the process and any other day before and after that.

 

La Ara / Helen Davies

 

Rise in love, don’t fall…

Falling in love is one thing. Rising in love is another.
It often starts with the fall until you rise together.

Rising in love means that nothing and no one will be able to break the promises and bonds you give each other and that you live your love every day.

It starts with you as a person. Finding yourself and your purpose on earth in the first place. It’s when both of you are whole and happy within that you will be able to give each other love and look at each other with love.

Then little things won’t bother you because you understand that they are part of the other.

If you are single, do yourself a favor and focus on yourself. You will meet the right person when you are ready to start over.

If you are too focused on the need of being with someone, you don’t get to enjoy life the way you should.

Life is a gift, a present – and present is the magical word in this sentence.

Be present with yourself, be a present to yourself. Enjoy being by yourself, having no one to answer to but yourself.

Only then can you hear the call of your true love after all!

 

La Ara

Uncover

I want you to uncover me.
To peel my layers of.
What is inside is just for you to see,
You’ll find a new me to love.

I’ll share with you my insecurities,
I’ll hide from you no more.
Continue the search, dive into the depth of me,
You’ll never feel forlorn.

Cause I will find you within my forbidden walls,
Where only I was traveling far and wide.
You can hear that inner call,
When I looked for a true man by my side.

Now you are here and I feel fear,
But I’ll no longer give in to it.
I was afraid you’d disappear,
Once we would be intimit.

But you proved me wrong,
The rose has lost her thorns.
It’s why I sing this song,
To show I’m no longer torn.

You’ve shown me now that I can trust,
And love with all my heart.
The past is gone, it turned to dust,
Our future is the start.

So come now and let me uncover
The layers, wrapped around your soul.
We’ve made it this far with each other,
It’s time to lose control.

La Ara

The Promise

And they danced in the cosmos, so close that they felt each others heartbeat… surrounded by the light and the laughter of the stars Touching each other more with their soul than with their body because, being from other planets, they were hardly physical.

“Don’t forget me!”, he whispered, holding her so close that they felt as if they were one. “Remember to wake me up, when you remember who we are, with the kiss of uncondititional, eternal love.”

She knew the moment of goodbye was soon to come. “Don’t leave me!”, she felt a heaviness she never felt before – in Sirius there is no such thing as heaviness – but Earth had already started to make its presence felt and she heard the call of adventure, as did Darius.

Darius looked into her eyes: “I will never leave you! No matter how long it takes for the two of us to find back to our union, I will FIND you! But you will have to be strong and remember…. remember this moment, this promise we are giving each other now.”

“Time goes by so quickly!”, La Ara sighed. “We only have this last dance before we disappear and I just became your royal wife. How can life be so cruel to separate us again?”

“We will always feel each other, no matter how far apart – and if I exist within Earths dimension when you are there or if I am in a different realm. We will have dreams, get signs and feel each others presence, no matter if our lifetime is with someone else or not. We will always meet before we come back and when the time is right, you and I will reunite on Earth and there will be no going back.”

La Ara looked away… she did not want to show him her tears.

“My love – my fair and royal queen, don’t you ever turn away from me when the tears wet your lovely cheeks. The sparkle in your eyes has never been more beautiful as in this pure moment of sadness. But I am so excited to help Gaia and be part of her children. We are meant to create something unique and special – and after many incarnations, we will unite again and finish what we have started, as one.”

He pulled her close one more time. The eternal embrace, that both would always feel when they closed their eyes, surrounded both with love and the knowing that they would never be alone. Then he vanished and La Ara was left behind, knowing she would soon follow him to Earth and search for him until he appeared after many, many lifetimes on earth as well as on many other planets.

“I am and will forever be yours, Darius!”, she whispered, moving to the rhythm of her stars laughter. Then La Ara, Goddess of the starwinds, closed her eyes and vanished into air. A long second passed by and when she opened her eyes…

 

La Ara

Relationships

When you’re in a relationship, it’s just about the two of you.

Starting something new means the past is over, done. There are lessons from the past and possible pain from the past, but the person you are with now has nothing to do with the past itself.

S/he is your future, so make sure you have an open heart and don’t think you pull a person into your life with the same patterns.

Let go before you step into a future with this person.

Learn to trust this new feeling you have now. We are not here to repeat our personal history. It’s simply a story you lived through.

Remember this:

Every day is new and magical.

So allow yourself to let this magnificent feeling of butterflies fluttering through your body and soul, in.

Rise and shine to this new adventure called feeling of bliss, loving and being loved in return.

If you don’t think you are lovable, how do you think can others love you?!? And if someone else loves you, do you believe it? Or are you looking for reasons why a person simply can not love you?!?
‘I am not good enough, not pretty enough, too intense, too deep’, whatever excuse you will look for… are all excuses because you don’t love and believe in yourself enough…

Allow yourself the chance to completely rise in love with your love and your selflove!

La Ara

 

Love is the Answer

What people often don’t understand is that a relationship is not the end – it’s a start, a beginning of something entirely NEW – especially at this age and time.

I am not talking about affaires or little sexual adventures I am talking about a commitment of two souls, the two higher selves,  the calling, the feeling of love that is filled with abundance.

When you are with the wo/man you love, you can move mountains. Miracles happen. And success in on its way. Four eyes see more than two – especially the inner eyes.

No one has to be alone and no one is meant to be alone.

It’s two + 1 – the two souls that unite and the Spirit/the magic within that makes things come together, that makes things happen.

Patterns and fearful structures of when and where – how old you must be to be married or in a relationship – that’s what keeps us apart from the true joy we can feel when we are connected to the soul that is meant to be in our lives.

Who cares where we are financially or securely…
We think: when I am financially/emotionally secure, then I am ready.

But are we? Are we ever really ready? Won’t there be something we could always do better, prepare for before we do the big steps in our lives?

It takes bravery, it takes:
knowing who you are and what your calling is.

What if your life begins the moment you say YES to the other person?
What if the world is waiting for the two pillars to burst into oneness to make success happen?

You can always fight alone – but is this going to help you?
What if you need someone to stand with you, as a mirror, a reflection, your other you – the person that gets you into your heart and out of your head?!?

It’s good to have someone we can talk to – talk about our fears, worries and someone who cheers us up.
Someone we can lean on, in times of pain or stress and someone to share your deepest joys and success with…
Someone who helps us SNAP out of our “drama” in times.

The person who may not be exactly you, but who feels you, who knows you (not intellecutally but your soul).

We are here to make a change – but not alone.

If we get too busy and don’t listen within, we can go on like this for years. But then we look back and we haven’t built a foundation of trust, of love, commitment with someone and we may end up alone in a time when we are too used to being alone as to be able to share our abundance.

Love is always the answer… no matter what.
Listen to your heart and follow your intuition when you are guided to someone who touches your soul.

If love is your foundation, you will grow stronger every day – and the adventure of life can begin.

La Ara