The Goddess – and mens’ fear of strong women…

I used to look at the women, the main characters in movies, shows and books, the ones that got to be with the men they loved – at least at the end.

I always wondered what it was that made them a queen, a star, a beautiful, fully present divine feminine goddess!

I spent many years of research on the divine masculine and the men who are not stepping into their power – who may want to but in the end don’t do the work which leads to fear of “strong women” (my finale in psychology was “Mens’ fear of strong women”, including a book that was written by a german (male) psychotherapist with the same title).

One of the most important and powerful messages I found – and this goes out to men and women – is:

DON’T YOU DARE COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ANYONE ELSE.
The main character tries to fit in and follow rules, but only when s/he has learned that s/he has accept her/his uniqueness, will s/he be magnificent and the other person will want to be with her/him – before that, drama happens – anger, pain, inner and outer conflicts…

Now back to the fabulous females amongst us…

The goddess-queen is she

who accepts her crown and her glory.
who demands respect – not to be treated in an unrespectful way…
whose eyes glow with inner fire
who always speaks from the heart and whose heart is pure
who steps into the responsability of being herself
who walks her own path
who has no desire to compare herself to anyone else
who shines her inner light of peace into the world
who is not afraid to manifest and make the world her own
who loves her body fully – no matter what shape and form it has
who loves herself unconditionally – this is the only way to love anyone else limitless…

Men who are afraid of strong women are the ones who feel inferior – who want to rule women – live traditonally like a few hundred years ago: women are only meant to be in the kitchen and take care of kids – while men work and bring money home.
Men who are afraid of the new and who are not able to be vulnerable (which is true strength).
Those men are the ones who used to hide in churches as priests and would say that women (“witches”) seduced them and had a contract with the devil – who was a male of course and was controlling of them 😛

More will be said, but that is it for right now.

Dear Gods and Goddesses!

SHINE!

Spread the love
Be role models – don’t wait for other god/desses to wake up!

YOU are the ones who change your world within – which will lead to a world of peace!

And so it is! So ham.

La Ara
fellow-goddess and lover of this truly incredible world!!!

My essence is Love

I am all about love.

I AM love. Everything that has interested me in my life was love.
Love for the world, love for the special someone, love for myself.
You grow in love.

Every single day gives you the opportunity to go deeper into that which you call love.

To ask yourself, WHY someone has such a deep impact on you, why you are filled with a song when you see the beauty of the man you love.
Why you would do EVERYTHING to support those you love.

Love is meant to be lived, meant to be felt. It’s our daily motivation, inspiration and “powertrain”.

Sometimes it takes a lot of patience. You learn every day.
Often people give up too fast. They think: okay, it’s not meant to be. Or they think: it’s too hard.

But what I learned is that it’s worth the wait. It’s worth not letting go – only going deeper.
We have patterns within us that keep us from simply loving someone. And if we don’t see them through with someone we love – they will happen with the next person as well.

It’s all about being love without regret.
Giving without expecting to get the same things in return.

I give – and it’s selfish because it makes me happy to see someone else happy.

To see the glow in the mans’ eye, the glow that I so love. Being able to make someone happy – even if it’s just for a moment – to see that person grow and fully become who he’s meant to be – THIS makes me feel extraordinarily lucky.

It’s the present I present myself with.

Love is a never ending source within you. Just learn to let go of ideas that restrain you from the the inner joy of loving and being loved in return – because you are loved. Always.

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Who I am

There are no limits to who I am.
One day I’m this way, next I won’t give a damn.
It is you who has the way I see you in your hand,
You’ll have to be the one who brings me to your promised land.

I can be fire, i can be storm,
awaken desire or keep you warm.
Routine is a word i never knew,
If you are bored, it has to do with you.

Once you awaken my heart with your gold,
I will.reveal you things that.were never told.
In old scriptures they are not to find,
And even less inside your mind.

I will embody what your spirit needs,
I’ll be your muse and plant some seeds.
I demand attention when you are with me,
Then I will take you to places, and make you see.

Stop thinking too much,
Allow the touch,
Of inspiration ~
Filled with loads of sensation.

You think a woman can only be,
Either lover or friend or family.
But I have learned that one woman is all,
And that’s what I embody, so let yourself fall!!!

La Ara

Desires, Responsabilities and Readiness

We say we are ready to be with the man we have dreamed of. But are we?
Most of our men have been truly hurt in the past. Hurt from past ralationships and they will bring their shadows with them.
Shadows of fear and loneliness, of being left alone after opening up to us. Are we ready to face their demons, to help them sooth their souls? Or are we going to take it personally? And transform from an angel they first saw to the demon he projects on us?
Even if the past has nothing to do with us, we will bring up their wounds, unless they have completely worked through them. But WHEN do we ever do that? When are we ever through?
When are we blank walls where no one has ever written on us – and erased or corrected a part of the innocence that we once were?
Truth is that we always come with packages. Even if we haven’t had a relationship, we come with wounds of feeling rejected from others. Wounds from our child, wounds from physical, emotional pain and misunderstandings from the past.
If your man opens up to you, are you able to listen? Are you able to help him transform, let go, release, realize that you are not the same? Are you ready?
We don’t live in a fairy tale where our man was the first we ever loved or you were the first he ever loved. That’s an illusion.
Yes, no one is the same, no one has had the same experience as any other And yet… we are the same because we all have had experienced some kind of pain.
That’s why we have the responsability, to work on us as much as we can. So we will be able to start with new love, new hope, new desire and not project our past wounds on new relationships.
It is doable, if we learn to understand where our other half is coming from. It starts with the childhood, continues with growing up and ends where you start with him. The new beginning.
So, if he opens up to you, don’t feel jealousy or envy. Yes, there were other women before you – yes, he was with other women before you. But what is past is past and it is important that you can listen to him without the urge of comparrison.
If a man opens up to you, he longs for your understanding, your kindness, your love – he doesn’t want to feel your anger or jealousy, he opens up because he hopes that you are the one who is the angel he first saw in you and he hopes and wishes that you are not like everyone else – that you are the one he has been dreaming of and waiting for all of his life.
So I ask you one more time, are you ready to take the responsability and be there for the man you dream about and the love you desire?
La Ara

Lilith – divine feminine Goddess not a demon!

From what I sense of her, she is one of the most beautiful and strongest embodiments of the divine feminine. She is the one who truly accepted her pure, feminine path.
Just because she did not do as Adam said, does not mean that she was a snake, that she was evil in any form. No. She wanted to be her own wo-man and not be oppressed by man(kind).
She was the Yin to Adams Yang but he wanted her to obey, not have a soulmate by his side who was equal – he wanted someone to serve him.
So she left him and went “beyond” that which we call paradise.
She to me is stronger than Kali.
I feel her presence around me and she is the strongest feminine source there is. Eve only represents the negative form of women – negative in the form of: feeling she is nothing without Adam, then again listening to her fears inside her mind. She represents the shy, uncertain little princess that waits for her shining armor.
She was made of Adams rib, so she was destined to be his and serve him. She had no choice but to love him, whereas Lilith was free in will and if she would have decided to stay with Adam, out of her own choice, we could have called it true love and a soulmate relationship.
Lilith represents the queen. Strong, beautiful, following nothing but her heart and in no way will she let a man rule her life. She is her own and no one can ever demand her what to do.
Men are afraid of her because they can not manipulate her. Only a strong man who truly knows his place in the world will be able to be her PARTNER, her king, the warrior beside the warrior.
Yin and Yang – Lilith and Adam.
Eve is the old picture of women in the past centuries. Sweet, kind, nice, polite, boring, mothers to the children of men, the women in the kitchen, cooking for their beloveds.
I am not putting women who are like this down in any way, if this is the calling for some – I was one of them myself for the longest time, accept for the cooking 😉
It is all a question of choice but in no way are any of them to talk down, they represent two different sides of the femine path, that is all.
A woman like Eve is taught by her father that a girl must do what her man wants her to do. She will teach her children what she learned from her parents. She would even allow her husband to lay a hand on her and defend him in front of her friends who worry about her – her reply would always be: “He didn’t mean to hurt me. He loves me and – I love him”.
The world has changed. It is time for women to stand up and be in their power and transform to the divine feminine.
This is not about demons, Lilith is not one of them, this is about fear. Fear of change, of transformation. Fear of someone who is different – a gypsy, a wicca, simply her own without listening to what others say. Lilith simply did what an Empress /a queen / a goddess should be doing. And for that she was expelled – or let herself out of “paradise”.
But to live with a man who does not see her as equal – is that truly PARADISE?
Are you going to let the masculine forces rule your life – or will you rule your own life?
Is it paradise, to be in a place where you serve and are a slave to what others want you to do?
If that is paradise for you, wonderful. It’s not to me and never will be.
I’d rather choose to be Lilith every day than Eve once in my life.
I know who I am and what I stand for and it’s time for change in a world still ruled by men.
Lilith is a role model as to how.
DARE to be DIFFERENT! Dare to change and follow your own rules! Live a life filled with awe and wonder and don’t let others tell you how the world works, experience it for yourself.
Be curious, go out there and shine your light.
Love yourself – so much that you need no one else to love you, because that’s when your indepence starts and you can then give love to others without the feeling of needing to feel the love come from others.
You are loved by all-that-is.
La Ara

I am who I want to be – not who someone else wants me to be

I wrote this exactly a year ago and I am sharing this again!!!
And today it’s even more significant than 365 years ago

Yesterday I was told that people think of me as strange because I smile. Because I find happiness and beauty in the little things…
People thought of me the same way in Germany/Austria. People are all the same way. But why should I change to make them happy by me being unhappy about little things I normally find joy in???
It’s my nature.

I choose to be happy. Believe me, I could complain about thousand things. But I chose not to because I have the privilege to make the most out of my life and out of who and what I am. I wear things every day that other people would only wear on stage.
I make myself beautiful by feeling beautiful. What’s on the inside goes to the outside. If I feel like wearing a long golden dress at daytime, I will (I’m still searching for it but there is no doubt that it will be in my posession very soon because I manifestate it in my dreams)
My life IS a musical/a dream. My world, the world my soul lives in, is miraculas every day. Why should it not be???
Am I not allowed to see miracles in every living being, in every breath I take and move I make?
Should I close my eyes or not look at the face of a mother kissing her child?
I am who I am, because of all the experiences I’ve had up to now. Tomorrow I will be someone like today with a few more experiences.1429748977865
I want to live every moment, in the fullest way possible. With happiness, joy, knowledge of my purpose (and no, that’s not me being a star on Broadway – that’s one of MANY goals)
I feel lucky, I feel beautiful, every move I make is art. If I will like moving to music, I will, doesn’t matter where I am. Even if the music is only in my head.
The reason why people are interfering in other peoples’ life is because they don’t know how to make a “top” story out of their own. So they look for sensations everywhere else, never in their hearts.

Have you ever spoken to yourself? To your soul?
There are days when I record myself on tape, talking to me. Especially if I’ve experienced something powerful/wonder-ful. I remind myself every day how lucky I am. And on some days, when I feel down – I listen to those reminders. I could fill books with stories I’ve gone through in the last (year and) 6 months – and even more books about the years before.
My adventures are better than 9/10 of the ones I see on TV. And why? Because I love being alive and feel it inside of me.
And it hasn’t always been that way. I’ve been through very, very low and bad times. With depressions, feelings of unworthiness, unhappiness – feeling ugly been there, done that.

I chose to take a different step and perspective. One step at a time.
And you know what? Whenever I feel REALLY AWFUL (which I do once in a while) – I will give myself a few minutes to feel that way – go deep into it, very deep – question it – and change my view. And I’m back to days like today.

Awesome, incredible, happy, wonderful, successfull, loveable, sexy, beautiful, exciting, fun, humorous, active, authentic, musical days like today

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Looking back

Looking back I remember all the years –
I spent in search while shedding tears.

I look back at how I used to feel,
Terrified, not feeling real.

There was a time I couldn’t remember,
Who I was, – loosing myself, I felt like a trembler.

There was a time, I felt disconnected,
Wanting to be loved, I felt unrespected.

For years I searched to find my strength,
Hoping that there may be a change.

Now I stand here and I realize,
The change occurs if you see through those lies.

Lies that people tell you now and then –
When you try to be someone they could love again.

If you lose weight, you will be happy,
If you do sports, you will be snappy.

If you learn more, you will be wise,
And most of all, never tell lies…

A man never cries,
A woman has to be quiet and nice.

The past year I learned that it starts with myself –
By taking off the loads from my inner shelf.

That I have to love me first,
Only then can I quench my inner thirst.

I am as strong as never before,
I now spread my wings and can finally soar.

I look back in a more than thankful way,
For every person who had something to say.

Who contributed to reveal –
The missconceptions of how I feel.

I can’t recognize the girl I once was,
Seeing my growth after all the loss.

No longer in a cage today,
I’m finally on my unique way.

Now I can leave behind –
The past with an unfettered mind.

I’m free to open up my doors,
I walk my path without romores.

My strength is that I’m finally me,
The one who I always wanted to be.

The woman I saw in my dreams as a child:
Beautiful, strong and dashingly wild!

La Ara

The Divine Feminine, Love, Spirituality and Music