Advice for Empaths from an Empath

Sometimes we pick up way too much about what other people think or feel – and all of this can be quite overwhelming…

I live in New York now, and if I wouldn’t have learned to cope with my emotions and to respect my own feelings – I would have never survived a DAY in this city!

So here are a few steps for you to take, to live a happier life…

 

Step 1
acknowledge that you are an empath and that you are able to feel the emotions of everyone around you.
When your mood changes quickly, chances are that these are not your own emotions, but emotions of other people around you… acknowledge this and learn to filter what truly comes from you – and what comes from somebody else…

Step 2
learn to control this ability.
Learn to decipher whether what you feel are your own emotions or if they are from other people around you.
You are ABLE to feel others but to do this day and night would truly KILL you – or at least stop you from existing individually – and you would live someones’ elses’ life.
in other words: passively.
Learn to “hear” your own voice and your heart.

Step 3
focus on you – be self-ish, not self-less!!! and I don’t mean ego-istic – but: ever heard of: if you don’t love yourself, no one will?!? There is a reason for it. Not everybody is like you – and people out there will not always wonder how you are and what you are doing… so… the most important person in the room and around you is you. Again: FOCUS ON YOU

Step 4
Once you have learned to listen to yourself, you can take control of what you feel and decide for yourself if you want to focus on you or the people/person around you.

When you are happy, you don’t need others to make you happy…

You will feel your own happiness – and CAREFUL – this happiness is contagious :*
Live from the heart, stop to “worry” about others, only then can you start to care for others as well

 

La Ara

What an indigo child or empath would say to “grownups”

“Don’t lie to me.
Don’t tell me you are fine when you are about to cry…
Don’t smile at me with your clown -like smile when you are filled with anger and pain.

I am an empath, I feel your lies. The worst ones are the ones when you lie to yourself…
I feel your pain and the tears you never cried because you never knew how to show them.

When I walk into a room filled with people, I feel so many emotions coming towards me that I can no longer discern if they are mine or come from others around me.

Be gentle with my soul.
I haven’t learned to filter yet.
In a world that is filled with distractions, radiations and billions of thoughts, I have learned to shut down, so I could function in a world where superficial life is top priority.
But I have paid the price with emptiness.

Let me find my own voice again by seeing you do the same.

You confuse me with daily masks, daily lies and smiles that are not truthful, rather a weapon to show the world that you are OK.

But OK is not what life is about… I want you to be real, true, honest.
If I did a mistake in your eyes, tell me, don’t swallow and burst another time when I thought you are alright with me… I may have gotten used to your lies and think you didn’t know any better.

So please don’t smile at me when your inside world is filled with tears…”


I am an empath and a grownup indigo child myself… but I have learned to be focused and at the same time be open to receive any message that is important for me – or someone else. So I talk from my own experience and memories.

As for whoever reads this:

If you have a young child in your midst, or know of a young adult/teenager who is very sensitive, don’t put it into the category of autism, asperger or unsocial… this world easily likes to put people into categories, when in truth we are all different and can’t be compared!!!

Young people have it very hard because there is too much polution going on (and I don’t mean us polluting nature, it’s more of the pollution of the mind)

Think 1000 times, before you give any child/grown up medicine – it destroys the specialness around this person and makes it feel numb and cold in a world that should be filled with love…

 

La Ara

To My King

When I wish upon a star at night,
I wish for you to hold me tight.
For your embrace, your hands holding mine,
We look at each other with love divine.

In silence your lips speak,
While mine they seek.
Your sighs they show,
What we both know…

That you are mine
As I am thine…
I hold my breath while I feel your hands…
Within me, around me, you put me in trance.

I talk to you when you silence your mind,
And you feel it is me, cause when you seek, you find…
And your soul has searched for me,
Knowing about our destiny…

We are ever so close, ever so real,
It’s you, who knows and me you feel.
The queen of your heart – it’s she who calls –
To you through love, in dreams, now break down your walls.

Lift your wings, you are ready to fly…
You once were a scorpion now its time to touch the sky…
To transform into the eagle now,
The one who is almighty – the one to whom I bow…

I am your angel who helps you to the light,
When darkness wraps itself around you tight.
But I’m not afraid to show you delight,
I follow my heart, for you I will fight.

You are a knight and a king at the same time…
Protecting your land, but seeing the divine.
With me you found your holy grail…
With your queen by your side, you can not fail.

Now come and conquer your sacred queen,
She will open your eyes to things you’ve never seen.
We walk the path of the new dawn,
Hand in hand we will walk on.

Enjoying each others company,
While setting our own hearts free.
I feel you with me every day,
And all I want is for you to stay…

Your power and my softness, your softness and my power,
Are sweet companions hour after hour.
Music surrounds us everywhere,
While we stand together, while we truly care.

The shiver I got when you called me your queen,
Caused a moment of clarity, and it made me feel serene.
I wanted to cry and felt so strong,
Knowing in my king’s arms I belong…

You may just overfly my poetry,
Yet every word in it has a meaning to me.
Awake, my Beloved, for you are strong, you are on fire…
When you’re with me our love gets us higher and I give in to your every desire…

To be your guide, your muse, your queen –
To reveal to you things that were once unseen.
Never believe, life could get boring with me in it,
It’s filled with adventure – when we unite it’s the opposite.

No day will be like the other,
We’ll have and cherish one another –
In many ways, remembering the spark,
When we became each others light in the dark.

The time has come to step into your power,
You will grow stronger from hour to hour –
And with each breath become aware,
That the force within you was always there.

We are magical together and if we dare,
We can share fragrancies of love, floating in the air.
This way we inspire others to share love and devotion,
With one another, and infinite facets of emotion.

La Ara

Love Poem to my King when I didn’t know him yet

close your eyes…
I take you by the hand…
Don’t be surprised,
I’ll make you understand…

So many wonderful things
can happen to us –
In our phantasies we have wings .
And in each other we trust…

Filled with imagination –
A new creation:
Whatever you want to do –
Can be done for you!
Surrounded by love,
You can fill the skies above –
With all you desire –
Gonna set the world on fire…

Whenever you see me –
Come a little closer –
I want to see what you see –
Don’t wanna lose ya…

Through your eyes and my heart –
We can dive into madness –
Make a new start –
Let go of irateness…

Filled with imagination –
A new creation:
Whatever you want to do –
Can be done for you!
Surrounded by love,
You can fill the skies above –
With all you desire –
Put the world on fire…

The world stops turning –
You turn around to me –
Our hearts start burning –
They’re filled with Ecstacy…

And we’re
Filled with imagination –
A new creation:
Whatever you want to do –
Can be done for you!
Surrounded by love,
You can fill the skies above –
With all you desire –
Put the world on fire…

written by

La Ara Dec. 17th 2013

Infinite Happiness

We are afraid that our happiness ends one day.
We think we can only take so much.

Who SAYS that?
Everyone else?
Are you eveyone else?

We BELIEVE that we must fall when we climb a mountain – again this is something we LEARN.

YOU have never lived before – not in this form anyway.
What if you can live in a constant state of ecstacy (without drugs, alcohol or any other artificial help) by choosing so?

Think about it…

Allow yourself to be happy.
Allow yourself to dream!

We are filled with fear, looking at all the responsabilities.
Thinking:

“something terrible will happen, if I allow myself to be infinetely happy!”

So we can not be in a constant state of amazement, but in a constant state of anger, sadness, numbness? How does that make sense???

We are being pulled into fear and hate right now.
And isn’t it exhausting?????

Can you feel your heart raise every time you hear the news, people talking about possible war and threats, death???

But it’s the mass consciousness. They try to scare you. WHY?
Because that is how the “public” gets you to live in the reptilian. How you become an “animal” instead of a human being…
And you constantly fight against an invisible enemy… no one is really here to fight against, it’s all in your brain – and your brain makes you believe it’s real!!!!!

BUT THIS IS NOT REALLY YOU!!! YOU ARE PEACEful and kind… a beautiful, being filled with laughter, with love. Doesn’t it relax you to actually read this?!?
But that does not serve the public. It does not serve “them”. So…
Let THEM go:

Learn to filter and to discern whether what you are going through is you – or someone/something else.

And if it is you, remember who and where you got it from.
We are being taught to live in fear. Every day of our lives. If not through parents then through movies, news, radio, magazines, in other words: through the public.

Let it go.
Right here and now, close your eyes and breath.
One more time.
Breath deeply.
Think about something beautiful, something or someone that makes you happy.

Be aware of this – breath in joy, breath out anger or sadness.

Do this a few times, conscously.

COME ON! If you have time to breath, you can consciously breath happiness into your heart, too!!!

And then when you breath out – let everything go that bothers you.

Right here in this moment – is peace, is love, is YOU!
Right here you can smile. Be happy.
Be blanc. Be tabula rasa, a wall that is unwritten. Think hakuna matata: you gotta put the past behind you.

And now…

Have a beautiful day, and allow yourself to be ecstatic!

 

La Ara

The Goddess – and mens’ fear of strong women…

I used to look at the women, the main characters in movies, shows and books, the ones that got to be with the men they loved – at least at the end.

I always wondered what it was that made them a queen, a star, a beautiful, fully present divine feminine goddess!

I spent many years of research on the divine masculine and the men who are not stepping into their power – who may want to but in the end don’t do the work which leads to fear of “strong women” (my finale in psychology was “Mens’ fear of strong women”, including a book that was written by a german (male) psychotherapist with the same title).

One of the most important and powerful messages I found – and this goes out to men and women – is:

DON’T YOU DARE COMPARE YOURSELF WITH ANYONE ELSE.
The main character tries to fit in and follow rules, but only when s/he has learned that s/he has accept her/his uniqueness, will s/he be magnificent and the other person will want to be with her/him – before that, drama happens – anger, pain, inner and outer conflicts…

Now back to the fabulous females amongst us…

The goddess-queen is she

who accepts her crown and her glory.
who demands respect – not to be treated in an unrespectful way…
whose eyes glow with inner fire
who always speaks from the heart and whose heart is pure
who steps into the responsability of being herself
who walks her own path
who has no desire to compare herself to anyone else
who shines her inner light of peace into the world
who is not afraid to manifest and make the world her own
who loves her body fully – no matter what shape and form it has
who loves herself unconditionally – this is the only way to love anyone else limitless…

Men who are afraid of strong women are the ones who feel inferior – who want to rule women – live traditonally like a few hundred years ago: women are only meant to be in the kitchen and take care of kids – while men work and bring money home.
Men who are afraid of the new and who are not able to be vulnerable (which is true strength).
Those men are the ones who used to hide in churches as priests and would say that women (“witches”) seduced them and had a contract with the devil – who was a male of course and was controlling of them 😛

More will be said, but that is it for right now.

Dear Gods and Goddesses!

SHINE!

Spread the love
Be role models – don’t wait for other god/desses to wake up!

YOU are the ones who change your world within – which will lead to a world of peace!

And so it is! So ham.

La Ara
fellow-goddess and lover of this truly incredible world!!!

My essence is Love

I am all about love.

I AM love. Everything that has interested me in my life was love.
Love for the world, love for the special someone, love for myself.
You grow in love.

Every single day gives you the opportunity to go deeper into that which you call love.

To ask yourself, WHY someone has such a deep impact on you, why you are filled with a song when you see the beauty of the man you love.
Why you would do EVERYTHING to support those you love.

Love is meant to be lived, meant to be felt. It’s our daily motivation, inspiration and “powertrain”.

Sometimes it takes a lot of patience. You learn every day.
Often people give up too fast. They think: okay, it’s not meant to be. Or they think: it’s too hard.

But what I learned is that it’s worth the wait. It’s worth not letting go – only going deeper.
We have patterns within us that keep us from simply loving someone. And if we don’t see them through with someone we love – they will happen with the next person as well.

It’s all about being love without regret.
Giving without expecting to get the same things in return.

I give – and it’s selfish because it makes me happy to see someone else happy.

To see the glow in the mans’ eye, the glow that I so love. Being able to make someone happy – even if it’s just for a moment – to see that person grow and fully become who he’s meant to be – THIS makes me feel extraordinarily lucky.

It’s the present I present myself with.

Love is a never ending source within you. Just learn to let go of ideas that restrain you from the the inner joy of loving and being loved in return – because you are loved. Always.

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