Category Archives: selflove

Set yourself free – and live!

You are here to live.
Not just to give…

The only way to truly experience yourself is by allowing your ego to be here, to exist.

 

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Enjoy life without the constant inner chains, without holding yourself back continously.

There is a huge difference between being egoistical all the time, taking things away from others, denying others the right to live their life etc… and doing things for yourself that do you good, celebrating life because you deserve it – and focusing on yourself instead of always focusing on others and their dramas.

Don’t be selfless all the time and only focus on others. Finding the balance is of importance. You don’t want to lose yourself while you take care of others, you want to find a way of integrating both.

Your ego is NOT your enemy.
It is the little voice inside of you that says: it’s my turn now. I did so much for others. I want to find a way to make myself happy and not worry about everyone else all the time.

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It helps you to enjoy that which is given to you.

You don’t have to exhaust yourself perminently by living in the outside world by “serving” all the time.

So many people think they have to give up their ego in order to ascend: no. Integrate it. Accept that you have one. Your ego is part of your physical assignment. Not to overcome it but to be-come it.

You are you.

Don’t abandon that which you are…
La Ara

Freedom

I’ve been thinking a lot about freedom lately. I am the most free I have ever felt. I will never forget where I have been or came from.

The proverbial chains that I have been placed in from school, family, work or other duties plus the shackles of duty I have bounded myself with are gone.

The promises and burdens for friends or girlfriends or other unappreciative people I do not even know anymore, no longer hold me. I have cast them aside.

For good reason.

A step towards my own freedom.

No one can tell you how to live!

Not your mom, your boss or your peers.

Get rid of those who would hold you back in favor of more supporting company, or none at all.

Don’t be afraid to stand alone for your own belief in yourself and others are sure to follow.

That is how leaders are born.

Courage.

Bravery in the the face of worry. Know that you are guided when you start living the way you are meant to.

Fear is always there, it’s what you do with it.

Illusions have always surrounded and bound us.

It’s time to shut them down in the name of our own truth.

Think for ourselves and make our own choices.

Whatever they are.

Guestpost from

Timothy James (check him out: https://theawakenedadventurer.tumblr.com)

Relationship – Working On Yourself First!

Ladies, especially the ones who are unhappy with – or angry at – a man right now… I would love to have a conversation with you, from heart to heart.

The other day I was talking to my man about relationships and exes and things really started to get me thinking:

Honestly, what do we women expect from men?
We expect way too much. We want them to be perfect (they have to live up to our expectations) and if they go a little off of the path of perfection, we drop them or badmouth them, in front of friends, family and on Facebook.or we continuously post posts about how we strong women don’t need men yada yada ya. But in the end one of our deepest desires is to be with someone special, right?

Remember… the law of attraction. Like attracts like… and isn’t the man we dated or the man we are with our own reflection?

When I was single I lived in New York by myself for 3 years. Even before that I lived by myself for more than 13 years and it gave me time to truly know myself. No distractions. I was searching for love, yes, but not just any love.
True love. Someone who could be a true partner by my side. I read a lot of books on men and women but most of all on the divine feminine. Since I was 17 I researched and even did my school finals in psychology on ‘Men’s fear on strong women’.

I took the time to discover who I am – read a lot and explored my environment.
I so adored taking myself to a show or a movie and especially out to eat.

I learned to truly enjoy being by myself because I knew there would come a day where I would no longer be by myself. Then I would get to share everything with a special someone but til then I would be my own special someone.

I did not search for someone actively. Maybe that has to do with my stubbornness of loving one man at a time and for a while even if he doesn’t love me back. You can say that’s good or bad, if you like, but it helped me to get here.
That’s how I am, i don’t give up. Not on people, not on friends, not on plans and visions.

I feel lucky that I was that way because it didn’t allow me to go crazy and sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry… and that’s easy to do in New York City…

When I did go out with someone and things didn’t go the way I wanted them to go: I did a self analysis. I wrote about it, spoke with friends i chose to be my go-to-person and made choices to treat myself better and to have others treat me better.

Most importantly I didn’t say to myself that every man is stupid and that it only had to do with him that things went wrong.

I truly feel that women nowadays have too many high expectations and don’t bring enough to the table themselves.
We want our men to be successful, wealthy, emotionally stable, no mama-boy, spiritually ready… completely complete.

You will never get a ‘perfect ‘ man because we are all human and even if we think we are done with a topic there may still be something inside of us that may need attention later in life.

Let me ask you this:
are you there already? Are you finished, do you completely know what you want in life? Because if not…

Wouldn’t you say we can only expect from someone else something that we have already reached?!?

As soon as we still have our own topics that take up our energy, like past family issues or past dramas and people we can’t forgive… are we really at the point to ask from our men that they have to be ‘better’ than us.

I am in a very fortunate and happy place but my relationship is far from perfect and I wouldn’t want it to be. If it were so, where would be room to grow together?
I am not my partner and he is not me so we can’t expect to understand each other all the time or to read each other’s mind.
Being together in a two room trailer means to accept each other unconditionally with all the flaws we have and I know that I have many flaws!
I thank my partner that he loves me as I am and doesn’t want to try to change me. Yet we talk about everything that isn’t right yet and we will both try to make things better.

Being in a relationship means to go through life together. You can’t expect anyone to catch you if you haven’t caught yourself.

And if you haven’t truly taken the time to get to know yourself, how can you expect someone else to know you?

Just a few thoughts I put out there to anyone who is ready to read it.

Much love,

La Ara

Selfcare

Some people have it naturally…
…but others struggle with it…
SELF LOVE.
In order to be happy in this world and to walk freely amongst others, with an open heart and filled with love, you have to give yourself everything first.
Whatever you would want to give others…. give it to yourself first!
Go out to the movies, watch the stars in the sky, read a book to yourself.
Take yourself to the most exquisite restaurant and enjoy alone-time.
You are more important than anyone else out there.
Because honestly: almost everyone puts him/herself first.
So why shouldn’t you?
It is not ego-istic, although ego simply is the latin word for “I” and why shouldn’t “I” take care of myself? Who else would do it if not I???
Your ego is the identity you walk around with every day. The moment you learn that you are separate from others you learn to say “I”.
It’s not a “bad thing” at all, it depends on how you use it… it’s always about balance.

Our life is not a Hollywood movie (that would mean it lasts for 2 hours and we would only see the highlights in it) but it can come close to it with these three important steps:

1) Be the most important person in your life.
2) Be the main role, not some minor part.
3) Take care of yourself as if you were your best friend.

You don’t have to only be there for others, in the contrary.
Be there for yourself first and you can take care of others in no time.
But if you are only here to serve others, you will soon have no more energy in your life.
Some people sacrifice themselves so much that they get burned out… you have to feed your flame with air in order for it to continue to burn – it needs room to burn, space.
Spread your wings on the path of selflove and say out loud: I love myself! Look into the mirror, deep into your eyes – and look at you as if you would look at your partner. With the eyes of truest love.
Allow your inner fire to burn intensely, for you and for others, by taking time to yourself and loving yourself as much as you love everyone else, if not a little more 😉
Have a glorious Monday, everyone.
Start the week right by loving yourself as who you are!
Remember – out of billions of people, you came here to be yourself.
So enjoy your journey! It is amazing that you are here, right now, on this planet with so much freedom.
I wish you peace and happiness!
La Ara

It’s up to you!

After our recording session, Tim and I went to have an early breakfast at 5 am, before we went to sleep.

We were all by ourselves and it was very peaceful…

…except for the noise out of tv and radio.

Thank goodness that neither of us are ever listening to that bs that you hear on the news (tv and radio) and all of the commercials you have to listen to every 2 minutes.

I must honestly say that all I hear is “You must fear your life” when I truly listen – whether it is commercial or when it’s about what’s going on in this world.
And the sad thing is?

Most of the things we hear are made to scare us…

“If you don’t take this medicine, you will die or have a severe illness”.

BS!!!

You are not sick, your life is not threatened.

They threaten you and make you sick by letting you listen to all the crap out there, consciously and subconsciously…

YOU are POWERFUL.

Powerful enough to say “ENOUGH, I’m done. I’ve heard it all. I will not let others ruin my day, especially people I don’t know who interfere in my own life every day.”

Don’t make yourself depend on what is “out there” if no one can truly look inside of you, but you!

You are responsible for what you listen to. What you allow your body to eat every day, how you spend your daily life.

Are you going to talk about “bad news” and discuss things you can not change with everyone around you?

Will YOU spread good or bad news?!?

Will you go to the doctor with every little symptom that is corrupting your body and let him/her give you antibiotics – or are you going to find a natural way for you?

There is no more excuse nowadays.

You have every source you need.

Will you read a good book or are you going to fill your subconscious mind with horror pictures of people being killed, zombies rising from the dead?

Will you embrace someone today and say: “Hey, it’s great that you are in my life” or are you going to spread rumors about him/her?!?

Will you focus on what others think about you or will you let go and realize how great your life is and how wonderful you are?!?

I have so much more to say and this could be endless (enough to fill 10 books) but I will stop for now.

We have been watching so much TV and being confronted with lies we believe in, that our brain can only pick up so many words and has a limited attention span.

My last message here for the day:

I love you.
You are smart, brilliant people otherwise you wouldn’t have come so far.

You are masters, angel, here to spread positivity and love and you are needed in this world…

Let go of the lies and listen to the beauty inside your hearts.
Allow yourself to FEEL again.

There is so much fear out there – don’t let it stop you to love (yourself and others).

Go out there and shine today.
Time is of the essence. The more you believe in those lies, the more your system will shut down and you will deny yourself to see the beauty of this world.

Go out there with open eyes and remember who you truly are.
A being that has all the gifts it needs to survive anything in this world and make this place to paradise!

So much love to you!

La Ara

p.s.: picture taken by my love, Timothy James. We went for a walk and the deer stood there practically waiting to take a picture of its true beauty within.

Rise in love, don’t fall…

Falling in love is one thing. Rising in love is another.
It often starts with the fall until you rise together.

Rising in love means that nothing and no one will be able to break the promises and bonds you give each other and that you live your love every day.

It starts with you as a person. Finding yourself and your purpose on earth in the first place. It’s when both of you are whole and happy within that you will be able to give each other love and look at each other with love.

Then little things won’t bother you because you understand that they are part of the other.

If you are single, do yourself a favor and focus on yourself. You will meet the right person when you are ready to start over.

If you are too focused on the need of being with someone, you don’t get to enjoy life the way you should.

Life is a gift, a present – and present is the magical word in this sentence.

Be present with yourself, be a present to yourself. Enjoy being by yourself, having no one to answer to but yourself.

Only then can you hear the call of your true love after all!

 

La Ara

Privilege to be alive

I can’t describe how grateful I am to live in this world of opportunities, to live in the present, to live in this kind of time where we are free to believe what we want to; where we can promote who we are and what we do on our own (youtube, facebook, instagram); where we can connect in ways that have never been possible before.
 
I am writing this in the USA while my mother can read this in Germany – as well as others can read this on other countries, if I allow them to…
 
We live in a world where we have the freedom of speech and are able to read and write (that’s a priviledge!!! Not everyone was able to do this 100 years ago and not everyone everywhere can do it yet) – and where we have access to knowledge everywhere.
 
… we are not being forced to go to places we don’t want to go to…
 
… we are all connected through pictures we share, words we speak – and yet we can control who those words go to, even within facebook.
 
Are you aware of these beautiful opportunities in your lives?
Are you aware that you alone are able to change your perception of the world every day?
 
Yes, we are being bombarded with (scary) information every day, but it’s up to you to tune out of it – stop watching the news all day or watching scary movies that your body actually lives through: did you know that your mind does not know whether someting is fiction or reality???
If you watch someone chasing someone else, your heart will race as well – and not because you are in danger, but because your body believes you are being chased (and possibly killed).
 
You can be calm if you choose to, by listening to soft music, taking baths or taking a beautiful walk in the park when the sun shines on your face and warms your heart…
 
…as within so without…
 
See yourself as beautiful, look into the mirror and look at what makes you special!
 
Believe in yourself and the world will believe in you!!!
 
Have a beautiful Sunday – and remember: it is a privilege to live here and now. Choose your books, your looks, your movies and your company – and you will rise and be joyful in this lifetime.
I love you, my dear soulfamily!
La Ara