Category Archives: Relationship

And suddenly you realize that it is okay to not love everyone

It is okay to love yourself more than a toxic relationship with ‘friends’ or ‘family ‘.

You don’t need to try to fix everything.

Sometimes people need to leave your heart so you can make room for new people, but most and for all, you need to make room for yourself.

If you spend all your life thinking about how to make life better for others, you have no time and space for the love you need for yourself.

The truth is that there is only one person you live with from the beginning to the end – and that is you.

If you don’t put yourself first, what does that say about the relationship to the most important person in your life?

Love yourself.

Live a life that fulfills you, a life that makes you feel rich in your soul.

Everyone around you will be happy if you make yourself first priority because that means they have a happy person surrounding them.

And happiness is contagious…

If you allow yourself to be happy, you allow everyone else to be happy, too.

Ideally there will be no gossip or ill wishes towards others.

You won’t find the time to focus on negativity.

There will be no hurting someone else,

No pain inside because you transformed it into something good.

We all have our days where we feel less ourselves than usual and that is okay, too, because Loving yourself means accepting yourself as who you are.

This way you can love everyone else the way they are, too.

It is okay not to love everyone.

Let them go and wish them well.

They don’t live your life, they don’t have your dreams.

But most importantly, if they don’t love you as you are it means they don’t love themselves in the first place.

So forgive them and walk away – the right people will stay with you because they can’t imagine a life without you.

La Ara

Every Day is a Holiday with you

I don’t need thanksgiving to remind me of how thankful I am.

Every morning I wake up to the most amazing, talented and inspirational man I have ever met and I am so grateful for that.

Tim, we have spent the last three Thanksgivings together and all of them were perfect.

The first one was making our own little turkey, the second was by almost moving out in order to move into our new home and this one was playing and having fun with Pokémon let’s go ☺️.

I don’t need holidays with you because every day with you is like a holiday for me…

I am thankful…

…for you putting up with me every day.

We have spent almost every minute together since we started our travels with our trailer and that is almost a year ago.

Being able to be in a 33 feet trailer and not going crazy around each other shows me how much you love me.

When I have my moments, you stay “Zen times Ten” and that alone is something very special!

I know you are the one I can turn to, whenever I need someone who listens to me.

You know what to say or how to hold me if I just need a hug.

If we have arguments, we get over them fast.

Even after 1.5 years of being together, we always find something more to talk about.

You inspire me to be all that I want to be and you take me as I am, you see me as who I really am and not as what my ego is trying to express.

This journey is the most beautiful and exciting journey of my life… the journey with you, wherever it takes us.

Sharing our music with the world has become our purpose.

You are so wise and know how to use words and weave them into music and you help me express myself better, too.

You are beautiful in every way, soul, body and mind. And complement who I am in every way.

You make me laugh.

Giggling with you in bed and not being able to stop is one of my favorite moments with you and I can never have enough of these moments.

I don’t need Thanksgiving in order to remind me of how grateful i am.

Because I am thankful waking up next to you every morning, making us coffee and enjoying whatever life brings up next!

Thank you for being the most amazing partner I could ask for!

La Ara

Union

He saw her shine.

And then for a while she vanished, from his heart and from his mind.

But when he saw her again, the magic returned and the feeling of “I know you!!!”

Before they met again, she had a vision. They would share the bond of a sacred kiss… and fear touched her mind, would she be ready for the sacredness that was now to come?

She would not let him in too close…

… there she was, this beautiful maiden with whom he felt this heavenly connection. Who was she? Was she the angel of his dreams?

…she tried everything, not to let him touch her but when He sang for her and her songs came from her lips, she could no longer deny the fire.

They looked each other in the eyes and in this second, all their doubts faded away and they remembered. Their connection was old… older than this planet.

A powerful pull drew them together and next thing they knew was that their lips touched and the magic began.

I will cherish this moment forever and ever, for I have found my queen!, he thought to himself while he held her in his arms.

La Ara

Live like a Gypsy

Don’t be too obsessed with the things you ‘own’
because that’s all an illusion.

We don’t own anything on this planet,
we are guests who are here to enrich
the world with our present energy.

Take your heart with you,
everywhere you go
and make your heart your home.

We don’t live forever
but we are here to enjoy that which is given to us by spirit.
Live in the present, not in the past or future
and make change your best friend
because change is the only thing that is consistent in your life.

Trust in a Higher Power
and that it will guide you,
if you stop thinking too much and rather feel.

Don’t try to grasp things you can’t control.
Respect the earth and her nature,
because this is something
that can’t be controlled, and it shouldn’t be.

Let go of people who aren’t right for you,
whether they are friends, lovers or family.
Anyone can be family,
but the title has to be earned.
Blood relationships do not automatically make you family.

Allow others to be free.
You have no right to control anyone but yourself.

Dream big and remind yourself daily
that you are powerful beyond measure,
that you are unique and anything you visualize can manifest.
But you need to free yourself from all the lies you learned
in school, on tv and on the streets.

No one has ever lived your life before,
so make it as special and as magical as you are able to.
Listen to your own voice not to someone in the radio.

By walking through the world without fear
of losing your possessions
and by letting go of what is holding you back,
you own everything because it’s all a part of you.

The minute you let go of control,
you will be guided by higher forces
which will show you the way.

La Ara

 

To an Ex

With every day that passes by,
I am less drawn to the questions why –
Why we never had a chance,
Why you weren’t ready to dance.

And then I realize this dream,
Was one that only I had seen –
You weren’t ready to perceive –
That what I would always believe.

For if I try to change for you,
You’ll never see the me that’s true –
I dimmed my light –
And lost my inner fight.

I have let go –
You’re not the person I thought I’d know.
Within my world you’ve gotten smaller,
My light inside has gotten taller.

I am grateful for what you taught me,
Those heavy lessons about my destiny –
The universe has other plans –
And I will now take every chance.

I freed my soul from expectations –
Of me and you and my creations.
My heart is ready to believe –
That I am here now to receive:

A love that fulfills my wildest fantasy –
All I gotta do is let him come to me.
So that soon enough and with a beautiful balance,
My king and I will have a chance,

When in a waltz we will dance,
In passionate eternal romance,
And together embrace –
A new and beautiful phase.

Uncover Me

I want you to uncover me.
To peel my layers of.
What is inside is just for you to see,
You’ll find a new me to love.

I’ll share with you my insecurities,
I’ll hide from you no more.
Continue the search, dive into the depth of me,
You’ll never feel forlorn.

Cause I will find you within my forbidden walls,
Where so far only I was traveling far and wide.
You could hear that inner call,
When I looked for a true man by my side.

Now you are here and I feel fear,
But I’ll no longer give in to it.
I was afraid you’d disappear,
Once we would be intimate.

But you proved me wrong,
The rose has lost her thorns.
It’s why I sing this song,
To show I’m no longer torn.

You’ve shown me now that I can trust,
And love with all my heart.
The past is gone, it turned to dust,
Our future is the start.

So come now and let me uncover
The layers, wrapped around your soul.
We’ve made it this far with each other,
It’s time to lose control.

 

La Ara

(picture taken by my partner Timothy James of “From the Aether”)

Relationship – Working On Yourself First!

Ladies, especially the ones who are unhappy with – or angry at – a man right now… I would love to have a conversation with you, from heart to heart.

The other day I was talking to my man about relationships and exes and things really started to get me thinking:

Honestly, what do we women expect from men?
We expect way too much. We want them to be perfect (they have to live up to our expectations) and if they go a little off of the path of perfection, we drop them or badmouth them, in front of friends, family and on Facebook.or we continuously post posts about how we strong women don’t need men yada yada ya. But in the end one of our deepest desires is to be with someone special, right?

Remember… the law of attraction. Like attracts like… and isn’t the man we dated or the man we are with our own reflection?

When I was single I lived in New York by myself for 3 years. Even before that I lived by myself for more than 13 years and it gave me time to truly know myself. No distractions. I was searching for love, yes, but not just any love.
True love. Someone who could be a true partner by my side. I read a lot of books on men and women but most of all on the divine feminine. Since I was 17 I researched and even did my school finals in psychology on ‘Men’s fear on strong women’.

I took the time to discover who I am – read a lot and explored my environment.
I so adored taking myself to a show or a movie and especially out to eat.

I learned to truly enjoy being by myself because I knew there would come a day where I would no longer be by myself. Then I would get to share everything with a special someone but til then I would be my own special someone.

I did not search for someone actively. Maybe that has to do with my stubbornness of loving one man at a time and for a while even if he doesn’t love me back. You can say that’s good or bad, if you like, but it helped me to get here.
That’s how I am, i don’t give up. Not on people, not on friends, not on plans and visions.

I feel lucky that I was that way because it didn’t allow me to go crazy and sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry… and that’s easy to do in New York City…

When I did go out with someone and things didn’t go the way I wanted them to go: I did a self analysis. I wrote about it, spoke with friends i chose to be my go-to-person and made choices to treat myself better and to have others treat me better.

Most importantly I didn’t say to myself that every man is stupid and that it only had to do with him that things went wrong.

I truly feel that women nowadays have too many high expectations and don’t bring enough to the table themselves.
We want our men to be successful, wealthy, emotionally stable, no mama-boy, spiritually ready… completely complete.

You will never get a ‘perfect ‘ man because we are all human and even if we think we are done with a topic there may still be something inside of us that may need attention later in life.

Let me ask you this:
are you there already? Are you finished, do you completely know what you want in life? Because if not…

Wouldn’t you say we can only expect from someone else something that we have already reached?!?

As soon as we still have our own topics that take up our energy, like past family issues or past dramas and people we can’t forgive… are we really at the point to ask from our men that they have to be ‘better’ than us.

I am in a very fortunate and happy place but my relationship is far from perfect and I wouldn’t want it to be. If it were so, where would be room to grow together?
I am not my partner and he is not me so we can’t expect to understand each other all the time or to read each other’s mind.
Being together in a two room trailer means to accept each other unconditionally with all the flaws we have and I know that I have many flaws!
I thank my partner that he loves me as I am and doesn’t want to try to change me. Yet we talk about everything that isn’t right yet and we will both try to make things better.

Being in a relationship means to go through life together. You can’t expect anyone to catch you if you haven’t caught yourself.

And if you haven’t truly taken the time to get to know yourself, how can you expect someone else to know you?

Just a few thoughts I put out there to anyone who is ready to read it.

Much love,

La Ara