Category Archives: Relationship

To Rise in Love…

To fall in love, to rise in love, to stay in love and to never let this feeling of newness, deepest admiration and romance go…

To make each other laugh and find these special times that are so unique to the two of you that no one else could ever replace them… all this takes work.

Inner work and work with each other.

It’s the most rewarding work and the more of it you realize together, the happier you will be.

When I met Tim 4 years ago, I did not know what kind of rollercoaster ride we would go through in the first two years.

We were never able to commit because circumstances didn’t allow it.

But with the decision of working together as songwriters and the decision that we want to cherish each other every day, life changed and now we have been on the road together for almost 2 years.

I can look back and smile with all my heart…

BECAUSE I would have NEVER wanted one single day to be different.

We both went through tremendous change and if one of these days wouldn’t habe existed, we wouldn’t be where we are today.

I gave up on a lot of so-called-dreams so I could start co-creating with my partner and have even better, more exciting dreams with him together!

Some of my dreams were living and staying in New York (NYC can be very lonely when you don’t have the man you love by your side and the dating rules, I will NEVER understand…).

Becoming a star on Broadway was a dream of my childhood – it was an idea and an escape. I can use my voice in many ways. I have written my own songs since I was 13 and now I can actually reach people through “From the Aether”.

I’d rather be free than bound to peoples’ opinion every day of my life…

I grew out of those dreams and made something new, something bigger, together with Tim.

I look back at us and realize that I would have never dreamed that I could be so happy…

That I could call this man, who has touched my heart in so many ways, my partner.

All that would have not been possible if Tim and I wouldn’t have done our own inner work.

He started to call me into his life, years before I even thought of coming to New York – and would we not have met through a show I once did – paths could have gone completely different paths…

But it was fate!!!

Love can be dirty and hurtful at times. You need to look into yourself, forgive yourself, the people around you and love yourself the most.

Stop letting others tell you who you are – and find out who you truly are and what you are meant to do here on this planet.

You will attract the right person when you are ready.
And with this wonderful person you will attract the right situations and things you want in your life (a home, adventure, everything your heart desires).
I am proof of that. But that will be another story
La Ara

And suddenly you realize that it is okay to not love everyone

It is okay to love yourself more than a toxic relationship with ‘friends’ or ‘family ‘.

You don’t need to try to fix everything.

Sometimes people need to leave your heart so you can make room for new people, but most and for all, you need to make room for yourself.

If you spend all your life thinking about how to make life better for others, you have no time and space for the love you need for yourself.

The truth is that there is only one person you live with from the beginning to the end – and that is you.

If you don’t put yourself first, what does that say about the relationship to the most important person in your life?

Love yourself.

Live a life that fulfills you, a life that makes you feel rich in your soul.

Everyone around you will be happy if you make yourself first priority because that means they have a happy person surrounding them.

And happiness is contagious…

If you allow yourself to be happy, you allow everyone else to be happy, too.

Ideally there will be no gossip or ill wishes towards others.

You won’t find the time to focus on negativity.

There will be no hurting someone else,

No pain inside because you transformed it into something good.

We all have our days where we feel less ourselves than usual and that is okay, too, because Loving yourself means accepting yourself as who you are.

This way you can love everyone else the way they are, too.

It is okay not to love everyone.

Let them go and wish them well.

They don’t live your life, they don’t have your dreams.

But most importantly, if they don’t love you as you are it means they don’t love themselves in the first place.

So forgive them and walk away – the right people will stay with you because they can’t imagine a life without you.

La Ara

Every Day is a Holiday with you

I don’t need thanksgiving to remind me of how thankful I am.

Every morning I wake up to the most amazing, talented and inspirational man I have ever met and I am so grateful for that.

Tim, we have spent the last three Thanksgivings together and all of them were perfect.

The first one was making our own little turkey, the second was by almost moving out in order to move into our new home and this one was playing and having fun with Pokémon let’s go ☺️.

I don’t need holidays with you because every day with you is like a holiday for me…

I am thankful…

…for you putting up with me every day.

We have spent almost every minute together since we started our travels with our trailer and that is almost a year ago.

Being able to be in a 33 feet trailer and not going crazy around each other shows me how much you love me.

When I have my moments, you stay “Zen times Ten” and that alone is something very special!

I know you are the one I can turn to, whenever I need someone who listens to me.

You know what to say or how to hold me if I just need a hug.

If we have arguments, we get over them fast.

Even after 1.5 years of being together, we always find something more to talk about.

You inspire me to be all that I want to be and you take me as I am, you see me as who I really am and not as what my ego is trying to express.

This journey is the most beautiful and exciting journey of my life… the journey with you, wherever it takes us.

Sharing our music with the world has become our purpose.

You are so wise and know how to use words and weave them into music and you help me express myself better, too.

You are beautiful in every way, soul, body and mind. And complement who I am in every way.

You make me laugh.

Giggling with you in bed and not being able to stop is one of my favorite moments with you and I can never have enough of these moments.

I don’t need Thanksgiving in order to remind me of how grateful i am.

Because I am thankful waking up next to you every morning, making us coffee and enjoying whatever life brings up next!

Thank you for being the most amazing partner I could ask for!

La Ara

Union

He saw her shine.

And then for a while she vanished, from his heart and from his mind.

But when he saw her again, the magic returned and the feeling of “I know you!!!”

Before they met again, she had a vision. They would share the bond of a sacred kiss… and fear touched her mind, would she be ready for the sacredness that was now to come?

She would not let him in too close…

… there she was, this beautiful maiden with whom he felt this heavenly connection. Who was she? Was she the angel of his dreams?

…she tried everything, not to let him touch her but when He sang for her and her songs came from her lips, she could no longer deny the fire.

They looked each other in the eyes and in this second, all their doubts faded away and they remembered. Their connection was old… older than this planet.

A powerful pull drew them together and next thing they knew was that their lips touched and the magic began.

I will cherish this moment forever and ever, for I have found my queen!, he thought to himself while he held her in his arms.

La Ara

Live like a Gypsy

Don’t be too obsessed with the things you ‘own’
because that’s all an illusion.

We don’t own anything on this planet,
we are guests who are here to enrich
the world with our present energy.

Take your heart with you,
everywhere you go
and make your heart your home.

We don’t live forever
but we are here to enjoy that which is given to us by spirit.
Live in the present, not in the past or future
and make change your best friend
because change is the only thing that is consistent in your life.

Trust in a Higher Power
and that it will guide you,
if you stop thinking too much and rather feel.

Don’t try to grasp things you can’t control.
Respect the earth and her nature,
because this is something
that can’t be controlled, and it shouldn’t be.

Let go of people who aren’t right for you,
whether they are friends, lovers or family.
Anyone can be family,
but the title has to be earned.
Blood relationships do not automatically make you family.

Allow others to be free.
You have no right to control anyone but yourself.

Dream big and remind yourself daily
that you are powerful beyond measure,
that you are unique and anything you visualize can manifest.
But you need to free yourself from all the lies you learned
in school, on tv and on the streets.

No one has ever lived your life before,
so make it as special and as magical as you are able to.
Listen to your own voice not to someone in the radio.

By walking through the world without fear
of losing your possessions
and by letting go of what is holding you back,
you own everything because it’s all a part of you.

The minute you let go of control,
you will be guided by higher forces
which will show you the way.

La Ara

 

To an Ex

With every day that passes by,
I am less drawn to the questions why –
Why we never had a chance,
Why you weren’t ready to dance.

And then I realize this dream,
Was one that only I had seen –
You weren’t ready to perceive –
That what I would always believe.

For if I try to change for you,
You’ll never see the me that’s true –
I dimmed my light –
And lost my inner fight.

I have let go –
You’re not the person I thought I’d know.
Within my world you’ve gotten smaller,
My light inside has gotten taller.

I am grateful for what you taught me,
Those heavy lessons about my destiny –
The universe has other plans –
And I will now take every chance.

I freed my soul from expectations –
Of me and you and my creations.
My heart is ready to believe –
That I am here now to receive:

A love that fulfills my wildest fantasy –
All I gotta do is let him come to me.
So that soon enough and with a beautiful balance,
My king and I will have a chance,

When in a waltz we will dance,
In passionate eternal romance,
And together embrace –
A new and beautiful phase.

Uncover Me

I want you to uncover me.
To peel my layers of.
What is inside is just for you to see,
You’ll find a new me to love.

I’ll share with you my insecurities,
I’ll hide from you no more.
Continue the search, dive into the depth of me,
You’ll never feel forlorn.

Cause I will find you within my forbidden walls,
Where so far only I was traveling far and wide.
You could hear that inner call,
When I looked for a true man by my side.

Now you are here and I feel fear,
But I’ll no longer give in to it.
I was afraid you’d disappear,
Once we would be intimate.

But you proved me wrong,
The rose has lost her thorns.
It’s why I sing this song,
To show I’m no longer torn.

You’ve shown me now that I can trust,
And love with all my heart.
The past is gone, it turned to dust,
Our future is the start.

So come now and let me uncover
The layers, wrapped around your soul.
We’ve made it this far with each other,
It’s time to lose control.

 

La Ara

(picture taken by my partner Timothy James of “From the Aether”)