Category Archives: psychology

And suddenly you realize that it is okay to not love everyone

It is okay to love yourself more than a toxic relationship with ‘friends’ or ‘family ‘.

You don’t need to try to fix everything.

Sometimes people need to leave your heart so you can make room for new people, but most and for all, you need to make room for yourself.

If you spend all your life thinking about how to make life better for others, you have no time and space for the love you need for yourself.

The truth is that there is only one person you live with from the beginning to the end – and that is you.

If you don’t put yourself first, what does that say about the relationship to the most important person in your life?

Love yourself.

Live a life that fulfills you, a life that makes you feel rich in your soul.

Everyone around you will be happy if you make yourself first priority because that means they have a happy person surrounding them.

And happiness is contagious…

If you allow yourself to be happy, you allow everyone else to be happy, too.

Ideally there will be no gossip or ill wishes towards others.

You won’t find the time to focus on negativity.

There will be no hurting someone else,

No pain inside because you transformed it into something good.

We all have our days where we feel less ourselves than usual and that is okay, too, because Loving yourself means accepting yourself as who you are.

This way you can love everyone else the way they are, too.

It is okay not to love everyone.

Let them go and wish them well.

They don’t live your life, they don’t have your dreams.

But most importantly, if they don’t love you as you are it means they don’t love themselves in the first place.

So forgive them and walk away – the right people will stay with you because they can’t imagine a life without you.

La Ara

To an Ex

With every day that passes by,
I am less drawn to the questions why –
Why we never had a chance,
Why you weren’t ready to dance.

And then I realize this dream,
Was one that only I had seen –
You weren’t ready to perceive –
That what I would always believe.

For if I try to change for you,
You’ll never see the me that’s true –
I dimmed my light –
And lost my inner fight.

I have let go –
You’re not the person I thought I’d know.
Within my world you’ve gotten smaller,
My light inside has gotten taller.

I am grateful for what you taught me,
Those heavy lessons about my destiny –
The universe has other plans –
And I will now take every chance.

I freed my soul from expectations –
Of me and you and my creations.
My heart is ready to believe –
That I am here now to receive:

A love that fulfills my wildest fantasy –
All I gotta do is let him come to me.
So that soon enough and with a beautiful balance,
My king and I will have a chance,

When in a waltz we will dance,
In passionate eternal romance,
And together embrace –
A new and beautiful phase.

Celebrate Life – or how to overcome a low vibrational state

My daily ritual is to celebrate life, in whatever form it comes!

Every day, even if I don’t feel good, I try to remind myself of the most beautiful things that the world has given to me – and the beauty that is yet to come!

Life is so grand and beautiful and every day can be amazing if you let it… if you don’t know how to start celebrating life, here are some things I did when I was feeling low:

I don’t meditate, I LIVE in meditation and with that I mean as conscious as I can…
There are exercises you can do like listening to inspirational speakers, listen to your favorite song in the morning when you get up and dance in front of the mirror. Get your energy up and start right there!

I personally love to watch and listen to motivational videos of Abraham Hicks, Bashar, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsh, myself (yes I record things and listen to my own voice – why? because that’s the voice in my head – and I train it to speak in beautiful, positive affirmations that way) and many more…

If I am really down, or low on energy, I listen to binaural beats – e.g. chakra clearing and whatever else there is out there – or I watch an amazing movie that inspires me.

As a singer I write my feelings down and turn them into songs. Sometimes I listen to my favorite musical and sing the lines out loud, that always helped me to come back to a feeling of bliss.

You do not have to spend thousands of dollars on courses of how to be motivated – there is so much free stuff you can do for yourself before you need to pay for therapy.

I had a depression and within less than a year I recovered from it.
I was lucky that my mother took me back in and did a great job lifting me up.

I also had a wonderful therapist who was more like a life-coach than a psychotherapist: after talking a little bit about my past and getting to know each other, she encouraged me to have goals again and only talk about the future instead of letting the past get me down… and the moment I got back on track, she said: Okay, Helen, you are ready now. I don’t want to see you here in therapy again!
I was also very grateful that my mother noticed the change early enough (although I lived in Austria and she in Germany at that point) to tell me that she felt I had a depression and gave me the choice to come back to her.

It made me face my inner demons, allowed me to look back with gratefulness and put my past behind me. Yes, it can come back and haunt you at times – but if that happens, see it as a nightmare and let it go.

Torn between many worlds and ideas for the longest time,  I finally realized what I truly wanted and went for it!

What is important to know about a depression is that it can sneak up on you – whether you’ve had a “good” life (according to society) or a “bad” life.

If it were up to society to judge that, I would have had nothing to ever complain about and had a “good” life (from the outside)… that’s what I was telling myself, too. And I felt that I had no right to have a depression… “You have everything you ever wished for. You have fabulous parents, wonderful friends – you are not allowed to have a depression.” Well, guess what – I did have it and I went through more than people who think they know me, will ever realize.

But those things are the things that helped me understand others in a more profound way – and I am grateful that I went through everything in the past.
I would not change a single day and a single choice I made…

I am in an incredibly beautiful state of mind and allow myself to follow my visions every day – and so should you.

If you are in a depressed state, or don’t feel good at the moment, know that it is okay. You are allowed to go through whatever it is you are going through… and for the “outside” things you can do:

Try binaural beats and positive affirmations.

Record yourself reading books or lines that can positively effect you!

Realize: you are perfect!
It’s not about being perfect in the way others want you to be, it’s about realizing that NO ONE will ever be the way YOU are! There is not ONE person out there who can fulfill your purpose other than you!

Now go out there (or stay at home) and celebrate life, for it is good to you – know that the more you celebrate life, the more beautiful things will happen to you! And if you feel overwhelmed or think that life is not good to you… then see who told you that: was that the little inner child that wants more attention, was that a tiny voice inside of you that wants to hold you back? Where are these thoughts coming from!

Every day is worth exploring… and enjoying!
The world needs you out there – so celebrate life in every way!

 

La Ara

No ONE Way

There is no ONE way.

If someone tries to tell you you have to believe in God or you will end up in hell, this is not true.

There is not ONE religion, there are many.
Any religion that tells you it is the only religion, is wrong.

We live in a time of choices – and whatever is good for us is what we should live by.

We should be grateful for that.

There is not ONE way to live, there are many.
Whether you want to have a steady job in a city or live your life traveling and making money on the side – whether you dream of a better tomorrow or enjoy the moment as it is right here and now – that is up to you!

No ONE should be judged for being different – because we are all meant to be individuals, not robots trying to only live ONE way.

Think about that before you judge anyONE’s situation.
How you want to live is up to you alone – and everyone else has the right to do so as well!

 

La Ara

Selfcare

Some people have it naturally…
…but others struggle with it…
SELF LOVE.
In order to be happy in this world and to walk freely amongst others, with an open heart and filled with love, you have to give yourself everything first.
Whatever you would want to give others…. give it to yourself first!
Go out to the movies, watch the stars in the sky, read a book to yourself.
Take yourself to the most exquisite restaurant and enjoy alone-time.
You are more important than anyone else out there.
Because honestly: almost everyone puts him/herself first.
So why shouldn’t you?
It is not ego-istic, although ego simply is the latin word for “I” and why shouldn’t “I” take care of myself? Who else would do it if not I???
Your ego is the identity you walk around with every day. The moment you learn that you are separate from others you learn to say “I”.
It’s not a “bad thing” at all, it depends on how you use it… it’s always about balance.

Our life is not a Hollywood movie (that would mean it lasts for 2 hours and we would only see the highlights in it) but it can come close to it with these three important steps:

1) Be the most important person in your life.
2) Be the main role, not some minor part.
3) Take care of yourself as if you were your best friend.

You don’t have to only be there for others, in the contrary.
Be there for yourself first and you can take care of others in no time.
But if you are only here to serve others, you will soon have no more energy in your life.
Some people sacrifice themselves so much that they get burned out… you have to feed your flame with air in order for it to continue to burn – it needs room to burn, space.
Spread your wings on the path of selflove and say out loud: I love myself! Look into the mirror, deep into your eyes – and look at you as if you would look at your partner. With the eyes of truest love.
Allow your inner fire to burn intensely, for you and for others, by taking time to yourself and loving yourself as much as you love everyone else, if not a little more 😉
Have a glorious Monday, everyone.
Start the week right by loving yourself as who you are!
Remember – out of billions of people, you came here to be yourself.
So enjoy your journey! It is amazing that you are here, right now, on this planet with so much freedom.
I wish you peace and happiness!
La Ara

Inspire

If there is one desire within me on how to make you feel… it would be making you feel special.

Inspiring you to achieve your highest dreams, helping you to figure out what your lifes’ purpose is.

This is a desire within me that I was born with.

I was given the gift to see more in others than they can see in themselves.

I don’t live here to tap into fear or to pull others down, I am here to enchant, to inspire, to set your souls on fire – so that you can go and help others to see who they truly are.

So I am here to awaken and remember who I am so that I can help you to see the beauty within you!

My dearest friend, you came here to be a wayshower, and if you read this, then this is for you, too!

You came here to be different, not to fit in – you came to stick out, to shine!
Stop doubting yourself and walk with confidence.

Where I once came from, before I incarnated on planet Gaia, I was in a world where people had values. There were no lies, no deception. People helped each other, we were teamplayers. We did not betray each other – not in relationships or friendships – kids were taught through life lessons, basics were taught and then they could choose what they wanted to know.

Each of us were unique and that made our world complete.

Most of you are not from here but have incarnated many times.

Allow yourself to be different and trust that everything you see within your dreams – everything you can visualize, is able to come true for you!!!

Let love get the best of you – not fear.

There is more than enough here for everyone, don’t let greed or hate touch your heart!

You are here to change the world!

I love you!

 

La Ara

You…

I look at you and see a shining star.
Once in the skies, now you are here to fulfill your purpose.

The star you once were smashed into millions of pieces in order to get here – and each piece became a life that you lived.

Now you are on the journey of the last piece of star-splitter and this life is the life of awakening.
It is up to you now to wake up and put the pieces together.

Isn’t it a miracle that you are here right now?
You are here to see all the manifestations of your dreams.

You are not here to suffer!
You are here to create miracles.

It starts within yourself.
Your whole body is a miracle…

It consists of millions of cells, each performing particular functions yet each linked to the entire body.
Each cell is living consciousness.

You don’t have control over your breathing yet your body breathes for you.
It is a living being in itself and here to serve you.

You are not your thoughts, you are beyond them.
So take control of what comes into your awareness and with that into your life.

First there is a picture – then there is a thought – and then comes the manifestation.
What do you see for yourself?

If there were no walls between your highest dreams and your reality,
What would you dream about?

Allow yourself to truly manifest what you desire and hold your head up high.
You are here to be majestic, not to make yourself small.

A star burst into pieces so you can live – and that star is you!
Remember that…

 

La Ara