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Celebrate Today!

And I will celebrate today and every day of my life!

For there is no day like the other and every day has a reason why it comes to pass.

What do we know about tomorrow?
What do we remember about yesterday?

It’s today that counts, for today you can create a new path or choose the olden way of yesterday.

Today you can decide to see beauty and uniqueness.

Will you see the sky bluer than before, will you hear the whispers of the wind dancing with the trees or are you going to walk through the world, caught in a routine, thinking: Oh no!

Not again! Everyone is staring at me, everyone thinks I am alien to this world – I feel I don’t belong…

We are all visitors on this earth, on Gaia.

Our souls are from other planets and we came here to help her, to bring a new, beautiful vibration into this world.
A vibration of Love, of Awe, of Wonder, of a Higher Destiny.

So are we going to let the Mass Consciousness drive us into insanity by feeling trapped and stuck in a rut?
Or are we going to enjoy the journey and see the Magick: feel it in the songs of a bird, sitting on a tree (and singing just for you) – or see it in the twinkling of the stars that change colors for us, every time we look at them.

No. There are no rules.

You are a miracle.
You are special in this world and no one is like you.
Allow this to sink in.
You can not compare yourself to anyone else.

The world (TV shows, magazines, books, movies) is trying to tell us how we are supposed to be – but in truth… there is no person next to us saying:

“Now you have to do this, and now you have to do that! And in order to fit in you have to leave this alone.”

This is all in our minds because we don’t accept ourselves in the sense of seeing ourselves with NEW and LOVING eyes.

Trust your Inner Calling and your Heart that is telling you that you ARE different and that you ARE here to live a wonderful, beautiful life.

And by accepting yourself, you will accept everyone else and their journey as well.
And this, my loves, will lead us to celebrate life every single day!

With all my love in my heart to all of you, unique, special souls!
La Ara

How to live with no Limits

Imagine you wake up one morning and have the car you always wanted, or the house you always dreamed of.

The truth is that there are no limits to what you want.

All you have to do is trust in Yourself and see that there are NO limits for you…
The only limits are the ones you created yourself because you feel that you are not worthy of your dreams.


Say this out loud to yourself:

I can have whatever I want to have.

The thing is:
In order to co-create it, you have to let your Dreams become Reality
in other words: you have to think the unthinkable.


This is where the work begins, for we have learned that we can only go so far – we can only dream so big. “you gotta earn it – you gotta work to get something”

The sky is the limit, right?

Well, does the sky have a limit? Can you see it ending somewhere?
Does the sky even exist or is that an illusion of our eyes?

Who is blocking your dreams?
Who limits you?

Again:

are you able to imagine that there are NO LIMITS???

Does that work? Can your mind truly visualize your dreams coming true?

So this is where you start.

You visualize. You dream – and the moment you realize your brain says: na-ah! Doesn’t work! – You start reminding yourself: OH but it DOES!

There is something that is called:

THE LAW OF ATTRACTION.

You attract, what YOU know is TRUE for you.

If you believed in yourself long enough, even for 17 seconds, you could start creating big things in your life.

But 17 seconds are not enough, how about 24/7?

You know, your brain works 24/7, too, even when you sleep – and whatever you read, hear or watch will be inside your subconscious mind… but we are conscious beings and can continuously manifest things if we believe in them long and strong enough.

We have the responsibility to manifest our dreams, for ourselves as well as for others so they can do so, too.

We can read positive books, speak and read affirmations, day dream, feel zen (balanced) and start living our dreams without caring what others think.

So, are you ready?
Do you want to dream big and make life happen?

Are you able to be limitless 24/7?

If not, let’s start working on it.

Start allowing your inner vortex to create all-possibility.

Go as far as you can without limiting yourself.
Now THAT’s the work!
Allow yourself to be open, to create.

Visualize what you want in your life.
FEEL that you are rich,
inside and out,
and as soon as others tell you that there ARE limits – don’t listen to them

Transform that which you hear into THAT what you want to hear.

The Law of Attraction works with you knowing about it and without knowing about it – so what do you prefer:

To be a CONSCIOUS creator or live your life unconsciously?

If we continue to put blocks into our path, by living an unconscious life, it’s no wonder that we can not get what the universe has in store for us…

La Ara

Let go and you will find peace

Watching the news or reading the newspaper, talking to strangers about their fears – and putting all the weight of the world on your shoulders – will only drive you crazy…

If you sit down, by yourself, in your room and shut out all the dramas that people around you have – you will notice that most of the things you fear or worry about, aren´t even your own stories…

If you tune into your heart and soul and simply breathe – is there war within you? Is there pain and conflict? Or is most of it illusion?

You don’t even have to “meditate” in order to find your peace… Just forget the world around you for once, allow the world to vanish and focus on your own life

You are not being selfish, this is actually true self-love.

Just let everything that goes on around you, drift away and enjoy each moment as it comes to you.

What do you really feel within?

When I am by myself, breathing deeply – I am at peace.
I feel free. There are no chains that are holding me down…

Life is meant to be good, deep within you, you know?

Why let others around you destroy your inner peace?

Just don’t let others draw you into their drama and you will see:

 

Life is beautiful!

 

Drama, fear, anger, jealousy, pain – it’s all an illusion.

Don´t think too much about anything that is going on around you and trust in the flow of the universe…

Let things take on their own shape and form and stop trying to control everything.

Most of the things we learned, we did through magazines, movies, books and what others told us.

But no one ever walked in your shoes or went through your experiences.

So why listen to them?

If you listen to other people who tell your their stories, do it with an open heart and think for yourself:
Is this MY TRUTH or just something someone else told me?
You have your own path.

Now walk it – with love

La Ara

And suddenly you realize that it is okay to not love everyone

It is okay to love yourself more than a toxic relationship with ‘friends’ or ‘family ‘.

You don’t need to try to fix everything.

Sometimes people need to leave your heart so you can make room for new people, but most and for all, you need to make room for yourself.

If you spend all your life thinking about how to make life better for others, you have no time and space for the love you need for yourself.

The truth is that there is only one person you live with from the beginning to the end – and that is you.

If you don’t put yourself first, what does that say about the relationship to the most important person in your life?

Love yourself.

Live a life that fulfills you, a life that makes you feel rich in your soul.

Everyone around you will be happy if you make yourself first priority because that means they have a happy person surrounding them.

And happiness is contagious…

If you allow yourself to be happy, you allow everyone else to be happy, too.

Ideally there will be no gossip or ill wishes towards others.

You won’t find the time to focus on negativity.

There will be no hurting someone else,

No pain inside because you transformed it into something good.

We all have our days where we feel less ourselves than usual and that is okay, too, because Loving yourself means accepting yourself as who you are.

This way you can love everyone else the way they are, too.

It is okay not to love everyone.

Let them go and wish them well.

They don’t live your life, they don’t have your dreams.

But most importantly, if they don’t love you as you are it means they don’t love themselves in the first place.

So forgive them and walk away – the right people will stay with you because they can’t imagine a life without you.

La Ara

To an Ex

With every day that passes by,
I am less drawn to the questions why –
Why we never had a chance,
Why you weren’t ready to dance.

And then I realize this dream,
Was one that only I had seen –
You weren’t ready to perceive –
That what I would always believe.

For if I try to change for you,
You’ll never see the me that’s true –
I dimmed my light –
And lost my inner fight.

I have let go –
You’re not the person I thought I’d know.
Within my world you’ve gotten smaller,
My light inside has gotten taller.

I am grateful for what you taught me,
Those heavy lessons about my destiny –
The universe has other plans –
And I will now take every chance.

I freed my soul from expectations –
Of me and you and my creations.
My heart is ready to believe –
That I am here now to receive:

A love that fulfills my wildest fantasy –
All I gotta do is let him come to me.
So that soon enough and with a beautiful balance,
My king and I will have a chance,

When in a waltz we will dance,
In passionate eternal romance,
And together embrace –
A new and beautiful phase.

Celebrate Life – or how to overcome a low vibrational state

My daily ritual is to celebrate life, in whatever form it comes!

Every day, even if I don’t feel good, I try to remind myself of the most beautiful things that the world has given to me – and the beauty that is yet to come!

Life is so grand and beautiful and every day can be amazing if you let it… if you don’t know how to start celebrating life, here are some things I did when I was feeling low:

I don’t meditate, I LIVE in meditation and with that I mean as conscious as I can…
There are exercises you can do like listening to inspirational speakers, listen to your favorite song in the morning when you get up and dance in front of the mirror. Get your energy up and start right there!

I personally love to watch and listen to motivational videos of Abraham Hicks, Bashar, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsh, myself (yes I record things and listen to my own voice – why? because that’s the voice in my head – and I train it to speak in beautiful, positive affirmations that way) and many more…

If I am really down, or low on energy, I listen to binaural beats – e.g. chakra clearing and whatever else there is out there – or I watch an amazing movie that inspires me.

As a singer I write my feelings down and turn them into songs. Sometimes I listen to my favorite musical and sing the lines out loud, that always helped me to come back to a feeling of bliss.

You do not have to spend thousands of dollars on courses of how to be motivated – there is so much free stuff you can do for yourself before you need to pay for therapy.

I had a depression and within less than a year I recovered from it.
I was lucky that my mother took me back in and did a great job lifting me up.

I also had a wonderful therapist who was more like a life-coach than a psychotherapist: after talking a little bit about my past and getting to know each other, she encouraged me to have goals again and only talk about the future instead of letting the past get me down… and the moment I got back on track, she said: Okay, Helen, you are ready now. I don’t want to see you here in therapy again!
I was also very grateful that my mother noticed the change early enough (although I lived in Austria and she in Germany at that point) to tell me that she felt I had a depression and gave me the choice to come back to her.

It made me face my inner demons, allowed me to look back with gratefulness and put my past behind me. Yes, it can come back and haunt you at times – but if that happens, see it as a nightmare and let it go.

Torn between many worlds and ideas for the longest time,  I finally realized what I truly wanted and went for it!

What is important to know about a depression is that it can sneak up on you – whether you’ve had a “good” life (according to society) or a “bad” life.

If it were up to society to judge that, I would have had nothing to ever complain about and had a “good” life (from the outside)… that’s what I was telling myself, too. And I felt that I had no right to have a depression… “You have everything you ever wished for. You have fabulous parents, wonderful friends – you are not allowed to have a depression.” Well, guess what – I did have it and I went through more than people who think they know me, will ever realize.

But those things are the things that helped me understand others in a more profound way – and I am grateful that I went through everything in the past.
I would not change a single day and a single choice I made…

I am in an incredibly beautiful state of mind and allow myself to follow my visions every day – and so should you.

If you are in a depressed state, or don’t feel good at the moment, know that it is okay. You are allowed to go through whatever it is you are going through… and for the “outside” things you can do:

Try binaural beats and positive affirmations.

Record yourself reading books or lines that can positively effect you!

Realize: you are perfect!
It’s not about being perfect in the way others want you to be, it’s about realizing that NO ONE will ever be the way YOU are! There is not ONE person out there who can fulfill your purpose other than you!

Now go out there (or stay at home) and celebrate life, for it is good to you – know that the more you celebrate life, the more beautiful things will happen to you! And if you feel overwhelmed or think that life is not good to you… then see who told you that: was that the little inner child that wants more attention, was that a tiny voice inside of you that wants to hold you back? Where are these thoughts coming from!

Every day is worth exploring… and enjoying!
The world needs you out there – so celebrate life in every way!

 

La Ara

No ONE Way

There is no ONE way.

If someone tries to tell you you have to believe in God or you will end up in hell, this is not true.

There is not ONE religion, there are many.
Any religion that tells you it is the only religion, is wrong.

We live in a time of choices – and whatever is good for us is what we should live by.

We should be grateful for that.

There is not ONE way to live, there are many.
Whether you want to have a steady job in a city or live your life traveling and making money on the side – whether you dream of a better tomorrow or enjoy the moment as it is right here and now – that is up to you!

No ONE should be judged for being different – because we are all meant to be individuals, not robots trying to only live ONE way.

Think about that before you judge anyONE’s situation.
How you want to live is up to you alone – and everyone else has the right to do so as well!

 

La Ara