Category Archives: Love

Set yourself free – and live!

You are here to live.
Not just to give…

The only way to truly experience yourself is by allowing your ego to be here, to exist.

 

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Enjoy life without the constant inner chains, without holding yourself back continously.

There is a huge difference between being egoistical all the time, taking things away from others, denying others the right to live their life etc… and doing things for yourself that do you good, celebrating life because you deserve it – and focusing on yourself instead of always focusing on others and their dramas.

Don’t be selfless all the time and only focus on others. Finding the balance is of importance. You don’t want to lose yourself while you take care of others, you want to find a way of integrating both.

Your ego is NOT your enemy.
It is the little voice inside of you that says: it’s my turn now. I did so much for others. I want to find a way to make myself happy and not worry about everyone else all the time.

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It helps you to enjoy that which is given to you.

You don’t have to exhaust yourself perminently by living in the outside world by “serving” all the time.

So many people think they have to give up their ego in order to ascend: no. Integrate it. Accept that you have one. Your ego is part of your physical assignment. Not to overcome it but to be-come it.

You are you.

Don’t abandon that which you are…
La Ara

SHINE!!!

Shine!

Leave your worries behind and allow your light to come through you!

You were meant to shine, not to stay in darkness.

Of course, without darkness you would have never found the light…

You are here for a reason – you are here because one day, many years ago, your soul wanted to come to this planet to experience contrast.

Pain, suffering, worrying – happiness, gratitude, joy – and so many other states of mind.

You wanted your heart to soar, to fly, to express itself.

See, your mind is a tool – it is not your boss, it’s not meant to rule!

The problem is that the subconscious mind picks up on so much negativity all around you that you think those thoughts are truly yours…

But once you realize that you steer your boat towards the shadows, you can take a different turn and sail towards the light.

The truth is: you can use this tool (your mind) to change your life by pouring more and more good thoughts into your consciousness.

Focus on the sun within your heart – and you will no longer be able to stay in the shadows.

Once the sun has awakened within you, all you can do is shine!

So be what you are the best, be the sun, even if the world around you is filled with shadows.

Believe in yourself – just as much as you believe that the sun shines every day, whether the clouds are in front of the sun or not.

You were born to Shine!
La Ara

No ONE Way

There is no ONE way.

If someone tries to tell you you have to believe in God or you will end up in hell, this is not true.

There is not ONE religion, there are many.
Any religion that tells you it is the only religion, is wrong.

We live in a time of choices – and whatever is good for us is what we should live by.

We should be grateful for that.

There is not ONE way to live, there are many.
Whether you want to have a steady job in a city or live your life traveling and making money on the side – whether you dream of a better tomorrow or enjoy the moment as it is right here and now – that is up to you!

No ONE should be judged for being different – because we are all meant to be individuals, not robots trying to only live ONE way.

Think about that before you judge anyONE’s situation.
How you want to live is up to you alone – and everyone else has the right to do so as well!

 

La Ara

Freedom

I’ve been thinking a lot about freedom lately. I am the most free I have ever felt. I will never forget where I have been or came from.

The proverbial chains that I have been placed in from school, family, work or other duties plus the shackles of duty I have bounded myself with are gone.

The promises and burdens for friends or girlfriends or other unappreciative people I do not even know anymore, no longer hold me. I have cast them aside.

For good reason.

A step towards my own freedom.

No one can tell you how to live!

Not your mom, your boss or your peers.

Get rid of those who would hold you back in favor of more supporting company, or none at all.

Don’t be afraid to stand alone for your own belief in yourself and others are sure to follow.

That is how leaders are born.

Courage.

Bravery in the the face of worry. Know that you are guided when you start living the way you are meant to.

Fear is always there, it’s what you do with it.

Illusions have always surrounded and bound us.

It’s time to shut them down in the name of our own truth.

Think for ourselves and make our own choices.

Whatever they are.

Guestpost from

Timothy James (check him out: https://theawakenedadventurer.tumblr.com)

Love will come to you…

…when the time is right. True love.

It took me many years of learning, dreaming, self work and even when Tim came into my life it took another 1.5 years when we finally truly committed, knowing that we wanted a life together.

I can tell you that even if not every day is without misunderstandings, every day gets better.

It was a long time coming but the time did come. And I do believe that there is the perfect person for each of us out there.

Nevertheless, we have to stop desiring that the person has to be perfect. S/he should be allowed to be imperfect. Have flaws, make you scream at times.
If we want the other person to accept us as who we are, we gotta give the other person the chance to be her/himself without the desire to change him/her.

Appreciate those little imperfections. It’s those that you would miss most, those that make the person special.

You don’t want to have a robot and you don’t want to have a person who is only strong and flawless. Wouldn’t that be kind of boring?

Don’t you want to discover each other? Talk about the past, get to know each other and have days where one of you is weak and needs comfort?

True love accepts the past without bringing the past into the present or future.

It’s true understanding of the other person that will bring you as close as two people can be.

Don’t listen to friends or family when it comes to matters of the heart. Let them be there for you when you need to talk and let them show you their perspective, but in the end it’s only about what your heart truly feels.

Not your ego or your mind, your heart.

Your intuition will guide you when you are on the right path.
Love will come to you when the time is right.

So give it a chance when it knocks on the fortress of your heart and let it in.

Whoever sees something special in you is worth exploring.

You will see that this journey never ends.
But it starts with you. And you alone!

 

La Ara

Relationship – Working On Yourself First!

Ladies, especially the ones who are unhappy with – or angry at – a man right now… I would love to have a conversation with you, from heart to heart.

The other day I was talking to my man about relationships and exes and things really started to get me thinking:

Honestly, what do we women expect from men?
We expect way too much. We want them to be perfect (they have to live up to our expectations) and if they go a little off of the path of perfection, we drop them or badmouth them, in front of friends, family and on Facebook.or we continuously post posts about how we strong women don’t need men yada yada ya. But in the end one of our deepest desires is to be with someone special, right?

Remember… the law of attraction. Like attracts like… and isn’t the man we dated or the man we are with our own reflection?

When I was single I lived in New York by myself for 3 years. Even before that I lived by myself for more than 13 years and it gave me time to truly know myself. No distractions. I was searching for love, yes, but not just any love.
True love. Someone who could be a true partner by my side. I read a lot of books on men and women but most of all on the divine feminine. Since I was 17 I researched and even did my school finals in psychology on ‘Men’s fear on strong women’.

I took the time to discover who I am – read a lot and explored my environment.
I so adored taking myself to a show or a movie and especially out to eat.

I learned to truly enjoy being by myself because I knew there would come a day where I would no longer be by myself. Then I would get to share everything with a special someone but til then I would be my own special someone.

I did not search for someone actively. Maybe that has to do with my stubbornness of loving one man at a time and for a while even if he doesn’t love me back. You can say that’s good or bad, if you like, but it helped me to get here.
That’s how I am, i don’t give up. Not on people, not on friends, not on plans and visions.

I feel lucky that I was that way because it didn’t allow me to go crazy and sleep with every Tom, Dick and Harry… and that’s easy to do in New York City…

When I did go out with someone and things didn’t go the way I wanted them to go: I did a self analysis. I wrote about it, spoke with friends i chose to be my go-to-person and made choices to treat myself better and to have others treat me better.

Most importantly I didn’t say to myself that every man is stupid and that it only had to do with him that things went wrong.

I truly feel that women nowadays have too many high expectations and don’t bring enough to the table themselves.
We want our men to be successful, wealthy, emotionally stable, no mama-boy, spiritually ready… completely complete.

You will never get a ‘perfect ‘ man because we are all human and even if we think we are done with a topic there may still be something inside of us that may need attention later in life.

Let me ask you this:
are you there already? Are you finished, do you completely know what you want in life? Because if not…

Wouldn’t you say we can only expect from someone else something that we have already reached?!?

As soon as we still have our own topics that take up our energy, like past family issues or past dramas and people we can’t forgive… are we really at the point to ask from our men that they have to be ‘better’ than us.

I am in a very fortunate and happy place but my relationship is far from perfect and I wouldn’t want it to be. If it were so, where would be room to grow together?
I am not my partner and he is not me so we can’t expect to understand each other all the time or to read each other’s mind.
Being together in a two room trailer means to accept each other unconditionally with all the flaws we have and I know that I have many flaws!
I thank my partner that he loves me as I am and doesn’t want to try to change me. Yet we talk about everything that isn’t right yet and we will both try to make things better.

Being in a relationship means to go through life together. You can’t expect anyone to catch you if you haven’t caught yourself.

And if you haven’t truly taken the time to get to know yourself, how can you expect someone else to know you?

Just a few thoughts I put out there to anyone who is ready to read it.

Much love,

La Ara

Selfcare

Some people have it naturally…
…but others struggle with it…
SELF LOVE.
In order to be happy in this world and to walk freely amongst others, with an open heart and filled with love, you have to give yourself everything first.
Whatever you would want to give others…. give it to yourself first!
Go out to the movies, watch the stars in the sky, read a book to yourself.
Take yourself to the most exquisite restaurant and enjoy alone-time.
You are more important than anyone else out there.
Because honestly: almost everyone puts him/herself first.
So why shouldn’t you?
It is not ego-istic, although ego simply is the latin word for “I” and why shouldn’t “I” take care of myself? Who else would do it if not I???
Your ego is the identity you walk around with every day. The moment you learn that you are separate from others you learn to say “I”.
It’s not a “bad thing” at all, it depends on how you use it… it’s always about balance.

Our life is not a Hollywood movie (that would mean it lasts for 2 hours and we would only see the highlights in it) but it can come close to it with these three important steps:

1) Be the most important person in your life.
2) Be the main role, not some minor part.
3) Take care of yourself as if you were your best friend.

You don’t have to only be there for others, in the contrary.
Be there for yourself first and you can take care of others in no time.
But if you are only here to serve others, you will soon have no more energy in your life.
Some people sacrifice themselves so much that they get burned out… you have to feed your flame with air in order for it to continue to burn – it needs room to burn, space.
Spread your wings on the path of selflove and say out loud: I love myself! Look into the mirror, deep into your eyes – and look at you as if you would look at your partner. With the eyes of truest love.
Allow your inner fire to burn intensely, for you and for others, by taking time to yourself and loving yourself as much as you love everyone else, if not a little more 😉
Have a glorious Monday, everyone.
Start the week right by loving yourself as who you are!
Remember – out of billions of people, you came here to be yourself.
So enjoy your journey! It is amazing that you are here, right now, on this planet with so much freedom.
I wish you peace and happiness!
La Ara