Category Archives: letting go

Why it’s time to let go of your past

Only when you are at a point in your life
where the past has absolutely no relevance for you anymore,
will you be able to step into a new life cycle.

I spent most of my life
thinking I wasn’t enough and worse:

I was consciously LOOKING for a problem in my psyche,
thinking something HAS to be wrong with me
or my life
because people would tell me
that something has to be wrong with me.

So instead of listening to my heart
and realizing that my life is beautiful and brilliant
and that one day the right partner would come into my life
to share the beautiful path with me,
I went on a soul search in order to FIND
something that’s wrong with me.

And of course I found it.

 

Whatever your focus is on,
that will enfold in front of your eyes infinitely.

 

It took me years
to let go
of the ‘problems’ I thought I had.

Now I am in a place where the past
truly doesn’t matter anymore.
I am even grateful for it
because it made me to who I am today.

I am grateful for wonderful parents who showed me
love, respect and appreciation
and wonderful friends to whom I will always feel connected to.

Yet, the past is no longer a burden to me
or a package that I need to carry around with me.

Time is all we have

and the truth is
that time has been made up by humans
so we feel caught in it.

No one has the right to judge you at where you are at in whatever age you are.

There are people out there that appear to have
everything they ever wanted at the age of 30
and then they fall into a deep hole
because it was stripped away from them.

Once you are close to your soul’s purpose,
time is no longer of the essence.

You live every day,
moment to moment,
and enjoy what Spirit has in store for you.

The law of attraction will do the rest.

Helen Davies

Live like a Gypsy

Don’t be too obsessed with the things you ‘own’
because that’s all an illusion.

We don’t own anything on this planet,
we are guests who are here to enrich
the world with our present energy.

Take your heart with you,
everywhere you go
and make your heart your home.

We don’t live forever
but we are here to enjoy that which is given to us by spirit.
Live in the present, not in the past or future
and make change your best friend
because change is the only thing that is consistent in your life.

Trust in a Higher Power
and that it will guide you,
if you stop thinking too much and rather feel.

Don’t try to grasp things you can’t control.
Respect the earth and her nature,
because this is something
that can’t be controlled, and it shouldn’t be.

Let go of people who aren’t right for you,
whether they are friends, lovers or family.
Anyone can be family,
but the title has to be earned.
Blood relationships do not automatically make you family.

Allow others to be free.
You have no right to control anyone but yourself.

Dream big and remind yourself daily
that you are powerful beyond measure,
that you are unique and anything you visualize can manifest.
But you need to free yourself from all the lies you learned
in school, on tv and on the streets.

No one has ever lived your life before,
so make it as special and as magical as you are able to.
Listen to your own voice not to someone in the radio.

By walking through the world without fear
of losing your possessions
and by letting go of what is holding you back,
you own everything because it’s all a part of you.

The minute you let go of control,
you will be guided by higher forces
which will show you the way.

La Ara

 

To an Ex

With every day that passes by,
I am less drawn to the questions why –
Why we never had a chance,
Why you weren’t ready to dance.

And then I realize this dream,
Was one that only I had seen –
You weren’t ready to perceive –
That what I would always believe.

For if I try to change for you,
You’ll never see the me that’s true –
I dimmed my light –
And lost my inner fight.

I have let go –
You’re not the person I thought I’d know.
Within my world you’ve gotten smaller,
My light inside has gotten taller.

I am grateful for what you taught me,
Those heavy lessons about my destiny –
The universe has other plans –
And I will now take every chance.

I freed my soul from expectations –
Of me and you and my creations.
My heart is ready to believe –
That I am here now to receive:

A love that fulfills my wildest fantasy –
All I gotta do is let him come to me.
So that soon enough and with a beautiful balance,
My king and I will have a chance,

When in a waltz we will dance,
In passionate eternal romance,
And together embrace –
A new and beautiful phase.

The process of trusting, letting go and making room for that what is to come.

A year ago from today,
I was ready to completely let go of everything and everyone that wasn’t meant to be in my life any longer.

I remember telling the universe: “I am ready to be with the one who is meant for me“.

After releasing two men in my life within a process of 6 weeks – and surrendering to the universe, the one man who truly loved me, came back into my life – on the 23rd of October 2016.

I am writing this because I know so many who are going through the process of letting go of someone they truly love – perhaps my experience can help you find clarity, too…

(this is a very honest post to my friends)

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We all read the quote: “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”

This is what I had to go through last September and October, with two different people.

It was a huge process of clearing, mentally, physically and spiritually and it was hurtful – but looking back, in my heart I always knew who was deeply meant for me, who I truly loved and that he loved me, too.

But was he ready? Was I ready?

Sometimes you need to end things that aren’t good for you so I completely blocked the one guy I knew who wasn’t right for me –  I had held on to him for over 2 years but I felt free and relieved after I did that.
I deleted any pictures or posts I ever made about my love for him and blocked him. More out of my own protection of not looking back into the past.

The other man in my life (my now life-partner):
I gave him time to realize what he wanted.
Gave him space to figure things out on his own, without me being in his presence –  I didn’t contact him at all.
We weren’t friends on facebook at that point.
But my heart always said:
He will come back to you. Let him come to you.

I channeled for myself, within my heart, after my mind was clearer, because when you honestly listen to yourself, you know the answers – you can go to as many coaches as you want to – they will only know a part of the story and maybe give you some good advice but your inner source, your intuition, knows more than they will ever know.

I detached from the situations I was in and spent times by myself, discovering what I wanted in life. Going out with friends, talking to them on facebook.
Talibah, Jen, Olga and Lisa were my go-to people, online and offline, no matter what. They were always there for me and I am forever grateful for that, you have helped me in ways no one else could have.

The only thing I did that connected me to my man was put up a cover picture of his lake. On the 23rd of October, he responded.
That was the day he came back into my life.

I would have never imagined that I could be so happy.
My life is just beginning.

The most important message for you from me is:

-Listen to your heart.
Give the other person the time and space to figure out what s/he wants. If s/he wants you in her/his life, s/he will make room for you to be there.
Allow the universe to help you.
-Believe in love.
Love is not always easy BUT SO WORTH IT. It takes love, patience and forgiveness (to yourself and the other).
The happy ever after story: you meet, you love, you never fight and there will never be problems: is a rarity. If you’ve found that, wonderful – if not: don’t give up (on love), fight for what you dream for and who you love, but also know when to let things go their own way…

I knew Tim about 2 years before we truly decided to not only be together but also to be partners in life and profession.

Now we have a journey in front of us that I never dared to dream about before and I am happier than I’ve ever been.

I have had a big journey already, coming overseas to the city of my dreams – but now our journey is even bigger, traveling, sending messages into the world, through our music and beyond.

All in all I can say, no matter how painful the process was: I don’t regret one day of the process and any other day before and after that.

 

La Ara / Helen Davies