Category Archives: Happiness

Set yourself free – and live!

You are here to live.
Not just to give…

The only way to truly experience yourself is by allowing your ego to be here, to exist.

 

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Enjoy life without the constant inner chains, without holding yourself back continously.

There is a huge difference between being egoistical all the time, taking things away from others, denying others the right to live their life etc… and doing things for yourself that do you good, celebrating life because you deserve it – and focusing on yourself instead of always focusing on others and their dramas.

Don’t be selfless all the time and only focus on others. Finding the balance is of importance. You don’t want to lose yourself while you take care of others, you want to find a way of integrating both.

Your ego is NOT your enemy.
It is the little voice inside of you that says: it’s my turn now. I did so much for others. I want to find a way to make myself happy and not worry about everyone else all the time.

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It helps you to enjoy that which is given to you.

You don’t have to exhaust yourself perminently by living in the outside world by “serving” all the time.

So many people think they have to give up their ego in order to ascend: no. Integrate it. Accept that you have one. Your ego is part of your physical assignment. Not to overcome it but to be-come it.

You are you.

Don’t abandon that which you are…
La Ara

Celebrate Life – or how to overcome a low vibrational state

My daily ritual is to celebrate life, in whatever form it comes!

Every day, even if I don’t feel good, I try to remind myself of the most beautiful things that the world has given to me – and the beauty that is yet to come!

Life is so grand and beautiful and every day can be amazing if you let it… if you don’t know how to start celebrating life, here are some things I did when I was feeling low:

I don’t meditate, I LIVE in meditation and with that I mean as conscious as I can…
There are exercises you can do like listening to inspirational speakers, listen to your favorite song in the morning when you get up and dance in front of the mirror. Get your energy up and start right there!

I personally love to watch and listen to motivational videos of Abraham Hicks, Bashar, Wayne Dyer, Neale Donald Walsh, myself (yes I record things and listen to my own voice – why? because that’s the voice in my head – and I train it to speak in beautiful, positive affirmations that way) and many more…

If I am really down, or low on energy, I listen to binaural beats – e.g. chakra clearing and whatever else there is out there – or I watch an amazing movie that inspires me.

As a singer I write my feelings down and turn them into songs. Sometimes I listen to my favorite musical and sing the lines out loud, that always helped me to come back to a feeling of bliss.

You do not have to spend thousands of dollars on courses of how to be motivated – there is so much free stuff you can do for yourself before you need to pay for therapy.

I had a depression and within less than a year I recovered from it.
I was lucky that my mother took me back in and did a great job lifting me up.

I also had a wonderful therapist who was more like a life-coach than a psychotherapist: after talking a little bit about my past and getting to know each other, she encouraged me to have goals again and only talk about the future instead of letting the past get me down… and the moment I got back on track, she said: Okay, Helen, you are ready now. I don’t want to see you here in therapy again!
I was also very grateful that my mother noticed the change early enough (although I lived in Austria and she in Germany at that point) to tell me that she felt I had a depression and gave me the choice to come back to her.

It made me face my inner demons, allowed me to look back with gratefulness and put my past behind me. Yes, it can come back and haunt you at times – but if that happens, see it as a nightmare and let it go.

Torn between many worlds and ideas for the longest time,  I finally realized what I truly wanted and went for it!

What is important to know about a depression is that it can sneak up on you – whether you’ve had a “good” life (according to society) or a “bad” life.

If it were up to society to judge that, I would have had nothing to ever complain about and had a “good” life (from the outside)… that’s what I was telling myself, too. And I felt that I had no right to have a depression… “You have everything you ever wished for. You have fabulous parents, wonderful friends – you are not allowed to have a depression.” Well, guess what – I did have it and I went through more than people who think they know me, will ever realize.

But those things are the things that helped me understand others in a more profound way – and I am grateful that I went through everything in the past.
I would not change a single day and a single choice I made…

I am in an incredibly beautiful state of mind and allow myself to follow my visions every day – and so should you.

If you are in a depressed state, or don’t feel good at the moment, know that it is okay. You are allowed to go through whatever it is you are going through… and for the “outside” things you can do:

Try binaural beats and positive affirmations.

Record yourself reading books or lines that can positively effect you!

Realize: you are perfect!
It’s not about being perfect in the way others want you to be, it’s about realizing that NO ONE will ever be the way YOU are! There is not ONE person out there who can fulfill your purpose other than you!

Now go out there (or stay at home) and celebrate life, for it is good to you – know that the more you celebrate life, the more beautiful things will happen to you! And if you feel overwhelmed or think that life is not good to you… then see who told you that: was that the little inner child that wants more attention, was that a tiny voice inside of you that wants to hold you back? Where are these thoughts coming from!

Every day is worth exploring… and enjoying!
The world needs you out there – so celebrate life in every way!

 

La Ara

No ONE Way

There is no ONE way.

If someone tries to tell you you have to believe in God or you will end up in hell, this is not true.

There is not ONE religion, there are many.
Any religion that tells you it is the only religion, is wrong.

We live in a time of choices – and whatever is good for us is what we should live by.

We should be grateful for that.

There is not ONE way to live, there are many.
Whether you want to have a steady job in a city or live your life traveling and making money on the side – whether you dream of a better tomorrow or enjoy the moment as it is right here and now – that is up to you!

No ONE should be judged for being different – because we are all meant to be individuals, not robots trying to only live ONE way.

Think about that before you judge anyONE’s situation.
How you want to live is up to you alone – and everyone else has the right to do so as well!

 

La Ara

Love will come to you…

…when the time is right. True love.

It took me many years of learning, dreaming, self work and even when Tim came into my life it took another 1.5 years when we finally truly committed, knowing that we wanted a life together.

I can tell you that even if not every day is without misunderstandings, every day gets better.

It was a long time coming but the time did come. And I do believe that there is the perfect person for each of us out there.

Nevertheless, we have to stop desiring that the person has to be perfect. S/he should be allowed to be imperfect. Have flaws, make you scream at times.
If we want the other person to accept us as who we are, we gotta give the other person the chance to be her/himself without the desire to change him/her.

Appreciate those little imperfections. It’s those that you would miss most, those that make the person special.

You don’t want to have a robot and you don’t want to have a person who is only strong and flawless. Wouldn’t that be kind of boring?

Don’t you want to discover each other? Talk about the past, get to know each other and have days where one of you is weak and needs comfort?

True love accepts the past without bringing the past into the present or future.

It’s true understanding of the other person that will bring you as close as two people can be.

Don’t listen to friends or family when it comes to matters of the heart. Let them be there for you when you need to talk and let them show you their perspective, but in the end it’s only about what your heart truly feels.

Not your ego or your mind, your heart.

Your intuition will guide you when you are on the right path.
Love will come to you when the time is right.

So give it a chance when it knocks on the fortress of your heart and let it in.

Whoever sees something special in you is worth exploring.

You will see that this journey never ends.
But it starts with you. And you alone!

 

La Ara

Happiness is an Inside Job!

When you have reached the point where no matter what others do or say can put you down, hurt you or distract you, then your life really begins.

Because that is when you start to pull new possibilities into your life.

With that happiness you have changed your own frequency, your vibration.

Some may leave you because they can not understand how you can ‘avoid’ bad news when that’s part of everyone’s life.

You won’t be informed at all. You won’t know where people got killed or who died, which star just got divorced…’

Ummmmmmm do you really want to know all this stuff?!?

 

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Or are you more interested in your own magical life???

Some people may leave because you stopped suffering for/with them when they tell you the story of their lives… let me tell you something.

When you are with your friends and they suffer and share their stories with you, it is good to show them your love and understanding. But as soon as you are by yourself it is not within your responsibility to continue to suffer or think about THEIR pain! Y

You can take 5 minutes a day to pray for them, to send them love – but let it go afterwards. Being too attached to other peoples’ stories will give you less room for your life. You don’t watch a movie and take all the emotions from the movie into your own life with you afterwards, do you?

Remember the great life you have and focus simply on being happy!

If others disappear because you don’t suffer as much (for and with them) as you used to, be glad they’re gone.
They only needed a therapist and not a friend – to load their troubles on.
If they share their happiness with you and join you in their happiness, then the friendship is real.

Remember:

This life – YOUR life – is all about you.
Allow yourself to be selfish enough to focus on yourself – because everyone welse does, too.

Be selfish enough to be happy (inside), no matter what. And you are helping the whole world more than you could with any other emotion!

The world wants HAPPY people!
So look into your mirror today and smile!!!

 

La Ara

It’s up to you!

After our recording session, Tim and I went to have an early breakfast at 5 am, before we went to sleep.

We were all by ourselves and it was very peaceful…

…except for the noise out of tv and radio.

Thank goodness that neither of us are ever listening to that bs that you hear on the news (tv and radio) and all of the commercials you have to listen to every 2 minutes.

I must honestly say that all I hear is “You must fear your life” when I truly listen – whether it is commercial or when it’s about what’s going on in this world.
And the sad thing is?

Most of the things we hear are made to scare us…

“If you don’t take this medicine, you will die or have a severe illness”.

BS!!!

You are not sick, your life is not threatened.

They threaten you and make you sick by letting you listen to all the crap out there, consciously and subconsciously…

YOU are POWERFUL.

Powerful enough to say “ENOUGH, I’m done. I’ve heard it all. I will not let others ruin my day, especially people I don’t know who interfere in my own life every day.”

Don’t make yourself depend on what is “out there” if no one can truly look inside of you, but you!

You are responsible for what you listen to. What you allow your body to eat every day, how you spend your daily life.

Are you going to talk about “bad news” and discuss things you can not change with everyone around you?

Will YOU spread good or bad news?!?

Will you go to the doctor with every little symptom that is corrupting your body and let him/her give you antibiotics – or are you going to find a natural way for you?

There is no more excuse nowadays.

You have every source you need.

Will you read a good book or are you going to fill your subconscious mind with horror pictures of people being killed, zombies rising from the dead?

Will you embrace someone today and say: “Hey, it’s great that you are in my life” or are you going to spread rumors about him/her?!?

Will you focus on what others think about you or will you let go and realize how great your life is and how wonderful you are?!?

I have so much more to say and this could be endless (enough to fill 10 books) but I will stop for now.

We have been watching so much TV and being confronted with lies we believe in, that our brain can only pick up so many words and has a limited attention span.

My last message here for the day:

I love you.
You are smart, brilliant people otherwise you wouldn’t have come so far.

You are masters, angel, here to spread positivity and love and you are needed in this world…

Let go of the lies and listen to the beauty inside your hearts.
Allow yourself to FEEL again.

There is so much fear out there – don’t let it stop you to love (yourself and others).

Go out there and shine today.
Time is of the essence. The more you believe in those lies, the more your system will shut down and you will deny yourself to see the beauty of this world.

Go out there with open eyes and remember who you truly are.
A being that has all the gifts it needs to survive anything in this world and make this place to paradise!

So much love to you!

La Ara

p.s.: picture taken by my love, Timothy James. We went for a walk and the deer stood there practically waiting to take a picture of its true beauty within.

Rise in love, don’t fall…

Falling in love is one thing. Rising in love is another.
It often starts with the fall until you rise together.

Rising in love means that nothing and no one will be able to break the promises and bonds you give each other and that you live your love every day.

It starts with you as a person. Finding yourself and your purpose on earth in the first place. It’s when both of you are whole and happy within that you will be able to give each other love and look at each other with love.

Then little things won’t bother you because you understand that they are part of the other.

If you are single, do yourself a favor and focus on yourself. You will meet the right person when you are ready to start over.

If you are too focused on the need of being with someone, you don’t get to enjoy life the way you should.

Life is a gift, a present – and present is the magical word in this sentence.

Be present with yourself, be a present to yourself. Enjoy being by yourself, having no one to answer to but yourself.

Only then can you hear the call of your true love after all!

 

La Ara