Category Archives: friendship

To Rise in Love…

To fall in love, to rise in love, to stay in love and to never let this feeling of newness, deepest admiration and romance go…

To make each other laugh and find these special times that are so unique to the two of you that no one else could ever replace them… all this takes work.

Inner work and work with each other.

It’s the most rewarding work and the more of it you realize together, the happier you will be.

When I met Tim 4 years ago, I did not know what kind of rollercoaster ride we would go through in the first two years.

We were never able to commit because circumstances didn’t allow it.

But with the decision of working together as songwriters and the decision that we want to cherish each other every day, life changed and now we have been on the road together for almost 2 years.

I can look back and smile with all my heart…

BECAUSE I would have NEVER wanted one single day to be different.

We both went through tremendous change and if one of these days wouldn’t habe existed, we wouldn’t be where we are today.

I gave up on a lot of so-called-dreams so I could start co-creating with my partner and have even better, more exciting dreams with him together!

Some of my dreams were living and staying in New York (NYC can be very lonely when you don’t have the man you love by your side and the dating rules, I will NEVER understand…).

Becoming a star on Broadway was a dream of my childhood – it was an idea and an escape. I can use my voice in many ways. I have written my own songs since I was 13 and now I can actually reach people through “From the Aether”.

I’d rather be free than bound to peoples’ opinion every day of my life…

I grew out of those dreams and made something new, something bigger, together with Tim.

I look back at us and realize that I would have never dreamed that I could be so happy…

That I could call this man, who has touched my heart in so many ways, my partner.

All that would have not been possible if Tim and I wouldn’t have done our own inner work.

He started to call me into his life, years before I even thought of coming to New York – and would we not have met through a show I once did – paths could have gone completely different paths…

But it was fate!!!

Love can be dirty and hurtful at times. You need to look into yourself, forgive yourself, the people around you and love yourself the most.

Stop letting others tell you who you are – and find out who you truly are and what you are meant to do here on this planet.

You will attract the right person when you are ready.
And with this wonderful person you will attract the right situations and things you want in your life (a home, adventure, everything your heart desires).
I am proof of that. But that will be another story
La Ara

And suddenly you realize that it is okay to not love everyone

It is okay to love yourself more than a toxic relationship with ‘friends’ or ‘family ‘.

You don’t need to try to fix everything.

Sometimes people need to leave your heart so you can make room for new people, but most and for all, you need to make room for yourself.

If you spend all your life thinking about how to make life better for others, you have no time and space for the love you need for yourself.

The truth is that there is only one person you live with from the beginning to the end – and that is you.

If you don’t put yourself first, what does that say about the relationship to the most important person in your life?

Love yourself.

Live a life that fulfills you, a life that makes you feel rich in your soul.

Everyone around you will be happy if you make yourself first priority because that means they have a happy person surrounding them.

And happiness is contagious…

If you allow yourself to be happy, you allow everyone else to be happy, too.

Ideally there will be no gossip or ill wishes towards others.

You won’t find the time to focus on negativity.

There will be no hurting someone else,

No pain inside because you transformed it into something good.

We all have our days where we feel less ourselves than usual and that is okay, too, because Loving yourself means accepting yourself as who you are.

This way you can love everyone else the way they are, too.

It is okay not to love everyone.

Let them go and wish them well.

They don’t live your life, they don’t have your dreams.

But most importantly, if they don’t love you as you are it means they don’t love themselves in the first place.

So forgive them and walk away – the right people will stay with you because they can’t imagine a life without you.

La Ara

Every Day is a Holiday with you

I don’t need thanksgiving to remind me of how thankful I am.

Every morning I wake up to the most amazing, talented and inspirational man I have ever met and I am so grateful for that.

Tim, we have spent the last three Thanksgivings together and all of them were perfect.

The first one was making our own little turkey, the second was by almost moving out in order to move into our new home and this one was playing and having fun with Pokémon let’s go ☺️.

I don’t need holidays with you because every day with you is like a holiday for me…

I am thankful…

…for you putting up with me every day.

We have spent almost every minute together since we started our travels with our trailer and that is almost a year ago.

Being able to be in a 33 feet trailer and not going crazy around each other shows me how much you love me.

When I have my moments, you stay “Zen times Ten” and that alone is something very special!

I know you are the one I can turn to, whenever I need someone who listens to me.

You know what to say or how to hold me if I just need a hug.

If we have arguments, we get over them fast.

Even after 1.5 years of being together, we always find something more to talk about.

You inspire me to be all that I want to be and you take me as I am, you see me as who I really am and not as what my ego is trying to express.

This journey is the most beautiful and exciting journey of my life… the journey with you, wherever it takes us.

Sharing our music with the world has become our purpose.

You are so wise and know how to use words and weave them into music and you help me express myself better, too.

You are beautiful in every way, soul, body and mind. And complement who I am in every way.

You make me laugh.

Giggling with you in bed and not being able to stop is one of my favorite moments with you and I can never have enough of these moments.

I don’t need Thanksgiving in order to remind me of how grateful i am.

Because I am thankful waking up next to you every morning, making us coffee and enjoying whatever life brings up next!

Thank you for being the most amazing partner I could ask for!

La Ara

Happiness is an Inside Job!

When you have reached the point where no matter what others do or say can put you down, hurt you or distract you, then your life really begins.

Because that is when you start to pull new possibilities into your life.

With that happiness you have changed your own frequency, your vibration.

Some may leave you because they can not understand how you can ‘avoid’ bad news when that’s part of everyone’s life.

You won’t be informed at all. You won’t know where people got killed or who died, which star just got divorced…’

Ummmmmmm do you really want to know all this stuff?!?

 

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Or are you more interested in your own magical life???

Some people may leave because you stopped suffering for/with them when they tell you the story of their lives… let me tell you something.

When you are with your friends and they suffer and share their stories with you, it is good to show them your love and understanding. But as soon as you are by yourself it is not within your responsibility to continue to suffer or think about THEIR pain! Y

You can take 5 minutes a day to pray for them, to send them love – but let it go afterwards. Being too attached to other peoples’ stories will give you less room for your life. You don’t watch a movie and take all the emotions from the movie into your own life with you afterwards, do you?

Remember the great life you have and focus simply on being happy!

If others disappear because you don’t suffer as much (for and with them) as you used to, be glad they’re gone.
They only needed a therapist and not a friend – to load their troubles on.
If they share their happiness with you and join you in their happiness, then the friendship is real.

Remember:

This life – YOUR life – is all about you.
Allow yourself to be selfish enough to focus on yourself – because everyone welse does, too.

Be selfish enough to be happy (inside), no matter what. And you are helping the whole world more than you could with any other emotion!

The world wants HAPPY people!
So look into your mirror today and smile!!!

 

La Ara