Desires, Responsabilities and Readiness

We say we are ready to be with the man we have dreamed of. But are we?
Most of our men have been truly hurt in the past. Hurt from past ralationships and they will bring their shadows with them.
Shadows of fear and loneliness, of being left alone after opening up to us. Are we ready to face their demons, to help them sooth their souls? Or are we going to take it personally? And transform from an angel they first saw to the demon he projects on us?
Even if the past has nothing to do with us, we will bring up their wounds, unless they have completely worked through them. But WHEN do we ever do that? When are we ever through?
When are we blank walls where no one has ever written on us – and erased or corrected a part of the innocence that we once were?
Truth is that we always come with packages. Even if we haven’t had a relationship, we come with wounds of feeling rejected from others. Wounds from our child, wounds from physical, emotional pain and misunderstandings from the past.
If your man opens up to you, are you able to listen? Are you able to help him transform, let go, release, realize that you are not the same? Are you ready?
We don’t live in a fairy tale where our man was the first we ever loved or you were the first he ever loved. That’s an illusion.
Yes, no one is the same, no one has had the same experience as any other And yet… we are the same because we all have had experienced some kind of pain.
That’s why we have the responsability, to work on us as much as we can. So we will be able to start with new love, new hope, new desire and not project our past wounds on new relationships.
It is doable, if we learn to understand where our other half is coming from. It starts with the childhood, continues with growing up and ends where you start with him. The new beginning.
So, if he opens up to you, don’t feel jealousy or envy. Yes, there were other women before you – yes, he was with other women before you. But what is past is past and it is important that you can listen to him without the urge of comparrison.
If a man opens up to you, he longs for your understanding, your kindness, your love – he doesn’t want to feel your anger or jealousy, he opens up because he hopes that you are the one who is the angel he first saw in you and he hopes and wishes that you are not like everyone else – that you are the one he has been dreaming of and waiting for all of his life.
So I ask you one more time, are you ready to take the responsability and be there for the man you dream about and the love you desire?
La Ara

Lilith – divine feminine Goddess not a demon!

From what I sense of her, she is one of the most beautiful and strongest embodiments of the divine feminine. She is the one who truly accepted her pure, feminine path.
Just because she did not do as Adam said, does not mean that she was a snake, that she was evil in any form. No. She wanted to be her own wo-man and not be oppressed by man(kind).
She was the Yin to Adams Yang but he wanted her to obey, not have a soulmate by his side who was equal – he wanted someone to serve him.
So she left him and went “beyond” that which we call paradise.
She to me is stronger than Kali.
I feel her presence around me and she is the strongest feminine source there is. Eve only represents the negative form of women – negative in the form of: feeling she is nothing without Adam, then again listening to her fears inside her mind. She represents the shy, uncertain little princess that waits for her shining armor.
She was made of Adams rib, so she was destined to be his and serve him. She had no choice but to love him, whereas Lilith was free in will and if she would have decided to stay with Adam, out of her own choice, we could have called it true love and a soulmate relationship.
Lilith represents the queen. Strong, beautiful, following nothing but her heart and in no way will she let a man rule her life. She is her own and no one can ever demand her what to do.
Men are afraid of her because they can not manipulate her. Only a strong man who truly knows his place in the world will be able to be her PARTNER, her king, the warrior beside the warrior.
Yin and Yang – Lilith and Adam.
Eve is the old picture of women in the past centuries. Sweet, kind, nice, polite, boring, mothers to the children of men, the women in the kitchen, cooking for their beloveds.
I am not putting women who are like this down in any way, if this is the calling for some – I was one of them myself for the longest time, accept for the cooking 😉
It is all a question of choice but in no way are any of them to talk down, they represent two different sides of the femine path, that is all.
A woman like Eve is taught by her father that a girl must do what her man wants her to do. She will teach her children what she learned from her parents. She would even allow her husband to lay a hand on her and defend him in front of her friends who worry about her – her reply would always be: “He didn’t mean to hurt me. He loves me and – I love him”.
The world has changed. It is time for women to stand up and be in their power and transform to the divine feminine.
This is not about demons, Lilith is not one of them, this is about fear. Fear of change, of transformation. Fear of someone who is different – a gypsy, a wicca, simply her own without listening to what others say. Lilith simply did what an Empress /a queen / a goddess should be doing. And for that she was expelled – or let herself out of “paradise”.
But to live with a man who does not see her as equal – is that truly PARADISE?
Are you going to let the masculine forces rule your life – or will you rule your own life?
Is it paradise, to be in a place where you serve and are a slave to what others want you to do?
If that is paradise for you, wonderful. It’s not to me and never will be.
I’d rather choose to be Lilith every day than Eve once in my life.
I know who I am and what I stand for and it’s time for change in a world still ruled by men.
Lilith is a role model as to how.
DARE to be DIFFERENT! Dare to change and follow your own rules! Live a life filled with awe and wonder and don’t let others tell you how the world works, experience it for yourself.
Be curious, go out there and shine your light.
Love yourself – so much that you need no one else to love you, because that’s when your indepence starts and you can then give love to others without the feeling of needing to feel the love come from others.
You are loved by all-that-is.
La Ara