BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

If I would say
only talk about things you truly believe in and live by
you would probably agree with me: that sounds absolutely right and doable…

But the question is:

Do we do that?
Do we really do that? Are we living by that which we are saying? Do we truly trust that only good things happen to us?

If you truly believe in something, you don’t have to repeat it over and over again, because you know it’s going to happen.

If you “know”, someone loves you, you won’t say: but he loves me, I am sure he loves me – I can feel he loves me. Awww but he doesn’t love me. Or DOES he love me? Why doesn’t he call me? He said he’d be there, he didn’t come. No, he doesn’t love me… But yet, he loves me… right???

or:

I am good at this job. I am great at this job. Damn, I suck. I am so bad at this – and yet, I am meant for this job. Why don’t I get a promotion? Man, I want a promotion! But I’m so bad at this. Come on now! I deserve it!!!

Can you see how often you contradict yourself with your own words? Sometimes even within one or two sentences…

We are sending out so many mixed signals into the world, to our friends and families that the universe often throws its hands up in dispair ūüėČ
Those insecurities inside ourselves, make miracles/magic/wishes impossible to come true.

If we order something at amazon, we don’t call or write them every day and ask if they sent our order away, do we?
We know it will arrive – we are excited about it – it will be here any day soon – but we will not walk around with mixed emotions of maybe – maybe nots.

I myself have come to the point where I realized – there are many things I trust in.
But then there are the biggest dreams – the highest goals, wishes, desires that I have – that seem so far away – like: being with the man I love, having a career as a singer, a healer – there is so much more that I want to do in this life – I want to write, I want to entertain, to inspire… – and there are moments where I believe I will never reach any of them.

Until now I did not feel worthy enough.
I didn’t trust that I deserve my dreams to come true.

Who really believes in miracles?
“Miracles are for others – not for me.” “They are Fairytales”.

So here’s the thing:

If YOU don’t believe in yourself and that you are here for a reason – if YOU don’t KNOW deep inside of you, that you can achieve everything you ever desired – who will?
WHO will if not you?

It’s wonderful to have people who believe in you – it’s amazing to have parents behind you, amazing friends who tell you, you are awesome and you’ll make it big – but if you don’t start to trust your heart, your imagination and that there is something BIG happening for you out there, as soon as you truly believe in yourself – you will never get there.

Start to listen to yourself when you speak.

Are you postive when it comes to your self-awareness and your qualities?
As an artist, a writer, a healer, a doctor Рno matter what you do Рdo you believe (or even better: KNOW) that you have a valuable contribution to give to the world?

Are you able to inspire with words, thoughts or deeds?

If you only had one day to live, what would you do? What do you want others to remember you by?

Are you ready?

Then go out there and fulfill your DESTINY!
Change the world by changing your inner world.

Be the unique YOU that you are meant to be… don’t try to be like anyone¬†else – there are enough out there who already are, yet only very few who are aware of their true being.

  Be one of those!!!

Dare to be different!

Trust in your beauty! Your Awesomness!! Your Power!!!

And Please:

Be careful what you say about yourself. Keep a positve, beautiful picture of yourself in mind, the highest version of yourself – don’t trust others opinions who think they may know you…

Discern what you know about yourself from what you heard about yourself. Be honest if you haven’t gotten to the best self-image yet. You are able to glow and shine within an instant, by changing your self-perception and projecting this new version of you into the world! Go and be! Flow, enjoy the world. See it with new eyes – the eyes of the marvellous¬†you that you are…

You have the choice to see yourself with new eyes EVERY DAY.
Let every cell of your body feel your inner beauty! You will see – the perception of the outer world will change if you change your inner world and become aware of the fact that you are a soul with a vessel to move around with and enjoy what the world has to give you!

Love to you all!!!

La Ara

Shine

What’s the use of going out into the world – if you feel empty and unhappy?

If you believe in the law of attraction – which always sets in, no matter if you believe in it or not – you will only pull negative experiences into your life – the more you speak about negativity, the more you will see what’s within you outside of you.

Be aware of this fact!

We don’t learn this in school.

No one tells you that what you put out there will get back to you…
We love to listen to the radio, watch movies – and if we really live in them, well, we also pull whatever we hear and watch into our lives…

Let me tell you something.

You, right there – you, reading this article – are a beautiful, unique, infinite being. It’s not up to the world to give you good experience so you can feel good inside – it’s the other way around!

But we are not hearing this often enough.

Somehow we have been trained to only “hear” the negative things. We can’t accept compliments because they don’t feel as natural to us as insults.
And if we do get compliments, we have an automatic mechanisme in our mind that says: he/she’s lying,,,

Why can’t we accept that we are beautiful, complete beings?
Babies are perfect – they may not walk, talk, run around – they are not academically intelligent right at that moment and tell us great philosophies – but do we care?
They are unconditionally loved. They bring such a beauty within them – and if we look into their eyes – we feel that they know EVERYTHING.

Then WE – us “grownups” start to destroy the perfection of the baby by starting to tell the child that is has sooo much to learn. We start arguing, screaming, giving it the feeling only to be loved if it listens to us.

All of us have gone through this.

The good thing about being a grownup is that we can be all of it – we can be our own grownup and inner child and tell ourselves how much we love each ourselves.

It’s time to let go of the voices of others and to listen to the only one that counts – our own voice, the voice of love, the voice of your heart.

Go out there and shine, beautiful one! Let out your sparkle!!!

No one can ever be compared to you!!!

La Ara

From an empty vessel to a beaming Goddess

A year ago when i arrived in New York, I felt like an empty vessel.
All I wanted to do was being liked by others. I didn’t even realize what an impact I had on other people, how much I hurt them or attracted others to me because they saw me as easy-to-control. ‘Oh, she is new to this place, I will protect her’. (Please? I am getting along better in New York than some who have lived here forever.)
My walls were so high that I often blanked out and for the past 12 years I lost¬†myself so much, that I didn’t even feel myself.
I remember my Ma and me at singing lessons.

She said: hold your hands up high and feel your hands tingle.
I hardly ever did.

 

It’s amazing what a ‘normal’ life you can have as a puppet ~ a robot.
Empty eyes, sadness, and this urge to finally wake up, live your own life…

When I was a young girl, I had the most beautiful life someone could ever imagine. My dad might have not always been there, being on tour as a conductor, but oh, I had two wonderful parents, who truly and deeply loved me… not to mention they still love me – to the moon and back – as this wonderful saying goes… ūüėČ

 

 

And eventhough my parents aren’t together anymore, their love for me is what will always keep us together, as a team.

But these thoughts of emptiness and sadness are often not even your thoughts Рthese are thoughts of the mass consciousness.

You are controlled by something else, a higher authority. Your thoughts, your brain only spit out things that you have been told by others.

Thoughts are always there, like the many radio channels we can¬†listen to any second of the day… – the question is,¬†what do you tune in to…?

Going through a lot of trauma of losing many people and going through a depression and the desire of everybody loving me, I started to live my life in a very passive way. Back then half of my life was watching tv. Instead of having real experiences. I lived through others’ eyes. Through Tv, books and my friends’ stories. I lived as the girl-next-door or even as my own supporting role.

I don’t regret it. This has definitely been an interesting journey. And I learned a lot just by listening to other peoples’ experiences.

But I’ve awakened now. I embrace my former self and kiss it goodbye, say hello to the strong, most beautiful version of myself ~ the strong entertainer, healer, goddess who is meant for something great here on earth ~ for my life is just beginning now and I won’t let my mind dictate what my heart knows is going to be.

 

La Ara

Growing into love – the change within

Sometimes you grow into love.

Sometimes you know very early that you love this person and that you want to be with that person – but you are not ready – you are not aware of this person’s value and the value inside of you – so you doubt, you are afraid and you think you can’t contribute to the other persons’ growth.
And you make mistakes. Mistakes you regret, mistakes through which you learn – mistakes of value, that change your whole being – e.g. you go out with someone else only to find yourself crying in bed because you feel lonelier than ever.
Then you realize that you no longer are in need of being with someone just because you want to “be with someone” – and you stop.
And you learn.
And you change.
You look within.
You go inside and find your own value, your own worthiness.
Sometimes it takes a special person to transform you.
This person touched you and you knew something was there from the beginning but you did not define it as “love”.
So you go and search. First outside of yourself and then within – and you find yourself within your selflove – you learn to be happy with yourself – learn to go away from distraction – see yourself as the angel. the god/goddess that you are and you appreciate even more what that special-someone did to even bring you to this point.
You start to smile without anyone else in the room because you are happy, truly happy and appreciative of every moment you are alive – with yourself and with others.
You know that love is everywhere and you learn to love everything.

And yet you know as you knew from the start that you love this other person in another way and that you only want what’s best for him/her.
You find that you are worthy of being with the other person and you can contribute to the others’ life and experience.
You learn that both of you are equal – alike and yet so different.

Meeting someone else doesn’t always come with that big bang and the perfect knowledge that he/she is the one and with mutual feelings. Sometimes you have to give it time. Grow on each other. Help the other person see who you truly are and not who he/she thought you to be…
Maybe you will stay in the background for a while and be the supporting role in your own play.
You step aside to help the other one to shine – and shine yourself through selfless acts. And later on you go back to shining yourself.

I have met people who don’t think that it’s possible that others can change and become different people – but I’ve gone through this myself – so I know…

People change, mostly to the better. We are not the same today as we were yesterday – with every day there is more consciousness – with every experience you grow and you can achieve more than you would have ever imagined.

And in time, you become the perfect partner for the other without even realizing it. Because you learned through your past.

Once you are there you just have to let go of the past and trust the inner glow the both of you felt from the start.

Stand your ground, believe in miracles and that they come naturally when both of you are ready. Trust that the other person will be guided through dreams and signs. Let the universe take over…

And the magic will occur…