Selfcare

Some people have it naturally…
…but others struggle with it…
SELF LOVE.
In order to be happy in this world and to walk freely amongst others, with an open heart and filled with love, you have to give yourself everything first.
Whatever you would want to give others…. give it to yourself first!
Go out to the movies, watch the stars in the sky, read a book to yourself.
Take yourself to the most exquisite restaurant and enjoy alone-time.
You are more important than anyone else out there.
Because honestly: almost everyone puts him/herself first.
So why shouldn’t you?
It is not ego-istic, although ego simply is the latin word for “I” and why shouldn’t “I” take care of myself? Who else would do it if not I???
Your ego is the identity you walk around with every day. The moment you learn that you are separate from others you learn to say “I”.
It’s not a “bad thing” at all, it depends on how you use it… it’s always about balance.

Our life is not a Hollywood movie (that would mean it lasts for 2 hours and we would only see the highlights in it) but it can come close to it with these three important steps:

1) Be the most important person in your life.
2) Be the main role, not some minor part.
3) Take care of yourself as if you were your best friend.

You don’t have to only be there for others, in the contrary.
Be there for yourself first and you can take care of others in no time.
But if you are only here to serve others, you will soon have no more energy in your life.
Some people sacrifice themselves so much that they get burned out… you have to feed your flame with air in order for it to continue to burn – it needs room to burn, space.
Spread your wings on the path of selflove and say out loud: I love myself! Look into the mirror, deep into your eyes – and look at you as if you would look at your partner. With the eyes of truest love.
Allow your inner fire to burn intensely, for you and for others, by taking time to yourself and loving yourself as much as you love everyone else, if not a little more 😉
Have a glorious Monday, everyone.
Start the week right by loving yourself as who you are!
Remember – out of billions of people, you came here to be yourself.
So enjoy your journey! It is amazing that you are here, right now, on this planet with so much freedom.
I wish you peace and happiness!
La Ara

The Fall

She screamed with no voice. Unheard but heard deeper by the universe than any scream-out-of-her-voice could have provoked.

Why was he unable to hear her, to see her, to find her, when all that was there was this infinite love within both of them.

But what other chance did she have than to simply let (herself) go and fall into the thorns of the woods, against every bone in her body that told her it would only hurt… she would be bruised and might even die from the fall.

She was lying on the ground of the tower and wasn’t able to speak…
But she was alive. She felt every muscle crying out in pain, but the love within her heart kept her from fainting. There was not much time left. If her mother found her here, she would die anyway.

In a dark world, filled with hate and jealousy – two hearts were brought together – she would not give up just because someone destroyed the only access he had to come to her. As long as her heart would beat, it would call out for him and the pain of being apart from him was stronger than the pain within her body.

Slowly she picked herself up and stumbled into the forest, to find the man who had been seeking for her all of his life.

Rapunzel ran through the woods, wounded from the fall she went through when she escaped the tower, but she did it, to see her prince again. She didn’t give up because she knew that a world without true love wasn’t worth living for.

 

La Ara

 

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Inspire

If there is one desire within me on how to make you feel… it would be making you feel special.

Inspiring you to achieve your highest dreams, helping you to figure out what your lifes’ purpose is.

This is a desire within me that I was born with.

I was given the gift to see more in others than they can see in themselves.

I don’t live here to tap into fear or to pull others down, I am here to enchant, to inspire, to set your souls on fire – so that you can go and help others to see who they truly are.

So I am here to awaken and remember who I am so that I can help you to see the beauty within you!

My dearest friend, you came here to be a wayshower, and if you read this, then this is for you, too!

You came here to be different, not to fit in – you came to stick out, to shine!
Stop doubting yourself and walk with confidence.

Where I once came from, before I incarnated on planet Gaia, I was in a world where people had values. There were no lies, no deception. People helped each other, we were teamplayers. We did not betray each other – not in relationships or friendships – kids were taught through life lessons, basics were taught and then they could choose what they wanted to know.

Each of us were unique and that made our world complete.

Most of you are not from here but have incarnated many times.

Allow yourself to be different and trust that everything you see within your dreams – everything you can visualize, is able to come true for you!!!

Let love get the best of you – not fear.

There is more than enough here for everyone, don’t let greed or hate touch your heart!

You are here to change the world!

I love you!

 

La Ara

You…

I look at you and see a shining star.
Once in the skies, now you are here to fulfill your purpose.

The star you once were smashed into millions of pieces in order to get here – and each piece became a life that you lived.

Now you are on the journey of the last piece of star-splitter and this life is the life of awakening.
It is up to you now to wake up and put the pieces together.

Isn’t it a miracle that you are here right now?
You are here to see all the manifestations of your dreams.

You are not here to suffer!
You are here to create miracles.

It starts within yourself.
Your whole body is a miracle…

It consists of millions of cells, each performing particular functions yet each linked to the entire body.
Each cell is living consciousness.

You don’t have control over your breathing yet your body breathes for you.
It is a living being in itself and here to serve you.

You are not your thoughts, you are beyond them.
So take control of what comes into your awareness and with that into your life.

First there is a picture – then there is a thought – and then comes the manifestation.
What do you see for yourself?

If there were no walls between your highest dreams and your reality,
What would you dream about?

Allow yourself to truly manifest what you desire and hold your head up high.
You are here to be majestic, not to make yourself small.

A star burst into pieces so you can live – and that star is you!
Remember that…

 

La Ara

My Miracle Day (a Life Lesson)

Almost a year ago, Tim and I had a time apart. 
A time that was necessary for the both of us – in order to grow and truly know what we want… a time in which I truly suffered and yet I felt it was a cleansing that was completely necessary in order for my next step ahead…

…I had no idea…

The day on which Tim came back into my life (and stayed) on February 19th 2017, was a miraculous day…

I remember walking through Brooklyn, by the ocean, listening to an mp3 by my dear friend Maya KahNah who did a reading on my twin flame and me.

She made it very clear that it was up to me to allow things to happen in my life. My responsability to trust in the process and to have faith in us. That I was very powerful and that my thoughts of feeling less than I am could keep him away from me.

Though I loved him more than anything, I realized I was ready to let go… especially of control and trusted in the process…

I had written him a text message a few days before, telling him that I miss him and that I asked of his forgiveness of my reactions when he broke up with me.

The weather was beautiful and I felt blessed to take a walk by the water. I calmed down and relaxed, with headphones on my head.

I had listened to Matt Kahn the other day – who had a great exercise which makes you say: “may you be blessed” to every person who passes you by.
I did that – and also said “I love you” at times (in my head).

I send these thoughts out to every person I saw that day. Unpersonal, all-loving, joyful.

I had many realizations on this day -but one stuck out:

That I had chosen to suffer.
Everything had happened because I pulled it into my life.
I tried to control everything instead of realizing how much I could influence everything by being myself, by loving, by allowing myself to shine and things to unfold.

I remembered my purpose and was grateful for everything that happened to me up to this point in life.

I was happy, simply happy because that was the deepest source within me it was who I am – and I was grateful! So grateful to be alive.
I gave in – and surrendered.

That day, after I felt more like myself than ever before, Tim texted me back. I asked him to call me and we had a 3 hour conversation on the phone – realizing how much we loved each other.

This was the beginning of our journey together.

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What I want to share with you all are these simple steps:
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—Be happy!
Go back to your origin which is your joy.
You do not have to suffer, suffering is something we fear and we learned it within society.

If you are blessed, send blessings to others
– simply as thoughts. You don’t have to know anyone, just wish the whole world or people you encounter, the very best and send them your love – anonymously.
It will come back to you threefold!

Share your joy and happiness with the world.

Be YOURSELF. There is no one but you. No one can live the life that you are living in the way that you do – and that is a blessing!
So feel free, share your love, share the treasures deep within you.

My life has changed completely and from the moment we moved together there hasn’t been a day where we’ve been apart.

I can be myself around him – he knows me better than anyone else ever could.

Thank you, Tim, you are a blessing to me!

La Aramaryland

The process of trusting, letting go and making room for that what is to come.

A year ago from today,
I was ready to completely let go of everything and everyone that wasn’t meant to be in my life any longer.

I remember telling the universe: “I am ready to be with the one who is meant for me“.

After releasing two men in my life within a process of 6 weeks – and surrendering to the universe, the one man who truly loved me, came back into my life – on the 23rd of October 2016.

I am writing this because I know so many who are going through the process of letting go of someone they truly love – perhaps my experience can help you find clarity, too…

(this is a very honest post to my friends)

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We all read the quote: “If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.”

This is what I had to go through last September and October, with two different people.

It was a huge process of clearing, mentally, physically and spiritually and it was hurtful – but looking back, in my heart I always knew who was deeply meant for me, who I truly loved and that he loved me, too.

But was he ready? Was I ready?

Sometimes you need to end things that aren’t good for you so I completely blocked the one guy I knew who wasn’t right for me –  I had held on to him for over 2 years but I felt free and relieved after I did that.
I deleted any pictures or posts I ever made about my love for him and blocked him. More out of my own protection of not looking back into the past.

The other man in my life (my now life-partner):
I gave him time to realize what he wanted.
Gave him space to figure things out on his own, without me being in his presence –  I didn’t contact him at all.
We weren’t friends on facebook at that point.
But my heart always said:
He will come back to you. Let him come to you.

I channeled for myself, within my heart, after my mind was clearer, because when you honestly listen to yourself, you know the answers – you can go to as many coaches as you want to – they will only know a part of the story and maybe give you some good advice but your inner source, your intuition, knows more than they will ever know.

I detached from the situations I was in and spent times by myself, discovering what I wanted in life. Going out with friends, talking to them on facebook.
Talibah, Jen, Olga and Lisa were my go-to people, online and offline, no matter what. They were always there for me and I am forever grateful for that, you have helped me in ways no one else could have.

The only thing I did that connected me to my man was put up a cover picture of his lake. On the 23rd of October, he responded.
That was the day he came back into my life.

I would have never imagined that I could be so happy.
My life is just beginning.

The most important message for you from me is:

-Listen to your heart.
Give the other person the time and space to figure out what s/he wants. If s/he wants you in her/his life, s/he will make room for you to be there.
Allow the universe to help you.
-Believe in love.
Love is not always easy BUT SO WORTH IT. It takes love, patience and forgiveness (to yourself and the other).
The happy ever after story: you meet, you love, you never fight and there will never be problems: is a rarity. If you’ve found that, wonderful – if not: don’t give up (on love), fight for what you dream for and who you love, but also know when to let things go their own way…

I knew Tim about 2 years before we truly decided to not only be together but also to be partners in life and profession.

Now we have a journey in front of us that I never dared to dream about before and I am happier than I’ve ever been.

I have had a big journey already, coming overseas to the city of my dreams – but now our journey is even bigger, traveling, sending messages into the world, through our music and beyond.

All in all I can say, no matter how painful the process was: I don’t regret one day of the process and any other day before and after that.

 

La Ara / Helen Davies

 

It’s up to you!

After our recording session, Tim and I went to have an early breakfast at 5 am, before we went to sleep.

We were all by ourselves and it was very peaceful…

…except for the noise out of tv and radio.

Thank goodness that neither of us are ever listening to that bs that you hear on the news (tv and radio) and all of the commercials you have to listen to every 2 minutes.

I must honestly say that all I hear is “You must fear your life” when I truly listen – whether it is commercial or when it’s about what’s going on in this world.
And the sad thing is?

Most of the things we hear are made to scare us…

“If you don’t take this medicine, you will die or have a severe illness”.

BS!!!

You are not sick, your life is not threatened.

They threaten you and make you sick by letting you listen to all the crap out there, consciously and subconsciously…

YOU are POWERFUL.

Powerful enough to say “ENOUGH, I’m done. I’ve heard it all. I will not let others ruin my day, especially people I don’t know who interfere in my own life every day.”

Don’t make yourself depend on what is “out there” if no one can truly look inside of you, but you!

You are responsible for what you listen to. What you allow your body to eat every day, how you spend your daily life.

Are you going to talk about “bad news” and discuss things you can not change with everyone around you?

Will YOU spread good or bad news?!?

Will you go to the doctor with every little symptom that is corrupting your body and let him/her give you antibiotics – or are you going to find a natural way for you?

There is no more excuse nowadays.

You have every source you need.

Will you read a good book or are you going to fill your subconscious mind with horror pictures of people being killed, zombies rising from the dead?

Will you embrace someone today and say: “Hey, it’s great that you are in my life” or are you going to spread rumors about him/her?!?

Will you focus on what others think about you or will you let go and realize how great your life is and how wonderful you are?!?

I have so much more to say and this could be endless (enough to fill 10 books) but I will stop for now.

We have been watching so much TV and being confronted with lies we believe in, that our brain can only pick up so many words and has a limited attention span.

My last message here for the day:

I love you.
You are smart, brilliant people otherwise you wouldn’t have come so far.

You are masters, angel, here to spread positivity and love and you are needed in this world…

Let go of the lies and listen to the beauty inside your hearts.
Allow yourself to FEEL again.

There is so much fear out there – don’t let it stop you to love (yourself and others).

Go out there and shine today.
Time is of the essence. The more you believe in those lies, the more your system will shut down and you will deny yourself to see the beauty of this world.

Go out there with open eyes and remember who you truly are.
A being that has all the gifts it needs to survive anything in this world and make this place to paradise!

So much love to you!

La Ara

p.s.: picture taken by my love, Timothy James. We went for a walk and the deer stood there practically waiting to take a picture of its true beauty within.

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